are really wanted. It is my firm con viction that you cannot give children too much love. Naturally, we flavor that with discipline. Fathers, may I emphasize to you this thought? Give gracious love and affection to your daughter. I have found in the counseling room that the girls who grow up to be frigid wom en are usually women who were re jected by their fathers. As little girls they came to dad to show him some little picture or something they made in kindergarten, but he was disinterested. He had no time to let his daughter sit on his lap and feel that he loved her. Instead, he just couldn’t be bothered with her. “Too busy.” So, rather than go through life continually being wounded emo tionally, she dials dad out. She builds up a resentment toward men that somehow is transferred to her hus band. I like to share with men that one of the best investments they can make in their daughters’ adjustment physically in marriage is to be af fectionate and loving while the girls
are growing up. You see, the loving father, the affectionate father, is helping his daughter learn to trust men and to be relaxed around them instead of being bundled up like a wad of nerves. Just because you don’t happen to be an affectionate person is no excuse. God can give you an af- ectionate spirit if you want it. CHAPTER EIGHT Many a time I have wished that I were a magician! As I sit in the counseling room and listen to a cou ple tell their problems in marriage, my heart aches for them, and I wish that I could reach into my desk drawer and take out a little magic wand, wave it over their heads, and presto, suddenly they would be trans formed. Sad to say, neither I nor anyone else has such a magic wand. I do, however, have a formula. I call it a set of keys, that opens the door to a magic way of marriage. There are six basic principles that come out of the Bible which, if used regularly in marriage, will guaran-
A happy Christian family is evidenced in the home of the Rev. Tim LaHaye,pastor of the Scott Memorial Baptist Church, San Diego. His messages this month on "The Biola Hour" concerning the Christian home have been a great challenge and help. His children are Linda, 20, Lori, 10, Le , 14, and Larry, a high school senior, 17.
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