Stevens Firm - December 2019

Tips for Getting Through the Holidays What Matters Most THE StevensFirm, P.A. Family Law Center 349 E. Main Street, Suite 200, Spartanburg, SC 29302 • • (864) 598-9172 December 2019

And it’s December, already. Somehow the entire year of 2019 just flew by, and while it still feels like it was Christmas just the other day, apparently the holidays are upon us once again. How are you? Are you doing okay? Have you bought all the gifts on your list yet? Or are you like me, getting gifts for various loved ones and friends right up until Christmas Eve? I’m here to tell you, “It’s okay!” Some of us absolutely love the holidays. Take Caitlin, one of our out-of-this-world paralegals, for instance. She’s like our own living, breathing, Cindy- Lou Who. (If you don’t believe me, look at the picture insert!) She loves the holidays. She goes to parades, gets pictures made with Santa, and loves Christmas gift shopping and Christmas carols. She’s our director of holiday cheer at every firm holiday party. And then, there are those of us who may be dealing with loss or sad anniversaries around the holidays. Whether your family or friends are no longer here with us to celebrate or separations or divorces have affected whom you celebrate your holidays with or when you celebrate your holidays with loved ones, the sadness can be difficult to manage. Here are some tips to help stay focused on what we believe is the real meaning of the holiday season:

friends to spend your holiday with this year, donate your time to a local charity helping to provide holiday meals to the needy. There are several in most communities, and these events can do wonders for the soul of someone missing loved ones during the holidays. 2. Go shopping for Toys for Tots: Every year, thousands of children in every community do not have a traditional Santa visit to provide gifts under their trees. Toys for Tots to the rescue! This wonderful charity gives back by providing brand-new donated toys to these families so every child will experience the joy of waking up to Santa’s gifts on Christmas morning. There are donation drop-off locations throughout the country, and a simple search on their website,, will show you the locations nearest to you.

3. Start new traditions: If you’re facing the holidays for the first time following a separation or divorce, now is the perfect time to start some new traditions. Maybe you and the kids can open all your gifts on Christmas Eve instead of Christmas Day. Maybe instead of having a formal holiday meal, you and the kids prefer to have a holiday meal made up entirely of whatever take- out food is open on the holiday (and deliver holidays goodies to those food-service workers who have to work on the holiday). Maybe you visit the relatives who might not have really enjoyed your ex-spouse’s company to brighten their holiday this season. The possibilities are endless. Be creative, and if you have kids, involve them in the process of starting new traditions. This will be our family’s first holiday season without our matriarch, Ben’s mother, Jean. We miss her tremendously (and the new Apple holiday commercial is hereby banned in my household since I can’t watch it without bursting into tears!), but she would not want us to miss out on celebrating together and enjoying the new memories we will share with each other going forward for many years to come. No matter your reason for change this year, if the holidays will be tough for you, please know you are in all of our thoughts throughout this holiday season.

1. Give your time to a favorite nonprofit or other charity: If you don’t have family or

Wishing you the very best this holiday seasons and into the new year from our family to yours,

–Jenny & Ben Stevens

Reminder About Our Firm’s Communication Policy Our promise to you is that while we are working on your case, we don’t take inbound phone calls, faxes, or emails. Our Senior Partner, Ben Stevens, takes no unscheduled inbound phone calls, as we have found this makes him much more productive and enables him to focus on getting your case resolved faster. You can always call our office at (864) 598-9172 and schedule an in-person or phone appointment with any of our attorneys, usually within 24–48 hours. We believe this approach is much better than the endless game of phone tag played by most businesses today. Email is also an efficient way to communicate with us, but please

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