an emotional collapse will bring on unnecessary anxiety and insecurity. Ask the child how he/she feels about your sadness. This will help them with their own feelings. Protecting children from the emotional collapse of
Ask a child how he/ she feels about your sadness.
an adult is important, yet sending children off to spend long periods of time with other relatives or friends may be destructive. It is better not to spare children the reality of what is happening. Children need to learn that they can experience the death of a loved one without completely fall- ing apart. However, they also need to feel secure in the knowledge that while they learn how to grieve, there will be a parent or caregiver there to care for them. If a parent or caregiver is not fully equipped to care for their child, it is appropriate for them to be cared for by another responsible Honest and appropriate answers to children’s questions about death are best, particularly those that are developmentally appropriate. Like adults, children may experience a great deal of ambivalence about the finality of death. Children may insist that their loved one is alive or that the loved one was seen breathing or opening their eyes in the casket. Help children to understand that physical death, in itself, does not hurt. The family is crying be- cause they hurt inside. The sadness comes from the fact that a relationship that meant so much to everyone has now been lost. adult for a short period of time. Talk About the Death
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