The Bledsoe Firm - November 2021

THE BENEFITS OF POSITIVE RELATIONSHIPS

Good for Mind and Health

BOOSTED IMMUNE SYSTEMS It makes sense — people who have less stress have stronger immune systems. During times of high stress, our bodies are more susceptible to illnesses because our immune system’s ability to fight off antigens is reduced. The stress hormone corticosteroid can also lower the number of lymphocytes available to fight infection. However, when we are in a happy and loving relationship, our bodies produce oxytocin, and we are less likely to get sick. BETTER PHYSICAL SHAPE Being in a positive relationship, especially a romantic one, can provide the motivation to be the best version of ourselves. This includes our physical condition, too! Having a friend or workout partner to encourage accountability and even push us out of our comfort zone a bit at the gym can keep us motivated. Being in a positive, healthy, and happy relationship means we listen to each other, offer advice, openly communicate without judgment, practice respect and trust, and engage in healthy activities together. So, it’s no surprise that positive relationships work wonders for our health and happiness.

Connecting with other humans in a positive way is one of the most profound experiences we have. That positivity is one of the greatest virtues — it’s contagious, and engaging in happy relationships with others is extremely important not only for our minds but also for our health. LONGER LIVES Studies have actually shown that when people are involved in positive relationships, they live longer. This is likely attributed to decreased stress, as stress can exact a toll on the entire body. Positive relationships can also encourage us to give up negative habits such as drinking or smoking, which cause many health problems and concerns. Healthy habits can help people live longer lives. QUICKER HEALING Positive people in our lives can distract us from pain, remind us to take medication, be our advocates, and simply reduce stress. And less stress means healing takes place faster. Those who have a support person feel more confident and prepared to undergo surgeries and fight illnesses as well.

4 WAYS TO HELP YOUR CHILDREN COPE WITH DIVORCE

Thousands of children experience divorce every year, and no child reacts the same way. Grief, sorrow, sadness, and frustration are all expected emotions during this process. However, children can come out stronger than before as they adapt, develop greater flexibility, and gain a better understanding of how to cope with stress.

need to reassure them of your love and that it will remain constant through any upcoming change. Continually explain that the separation is not their fault.

The Bledsoe Firm has come up with four ways to better help your children cope during and after the divorce process.

ENCOURAGE AND ALLOW YOUR CHILDREN TO DISCUSS THEIR FEELINGS. Your children’s mixed emotions during divorce are only natural. They are going to get frustrated with the situation and may even take it out on you from time to time. If your child is displaying these emotions more prominently, it’s best to validate their feelings. Explain that it’s understandable and justified for them to feel that way. Never minimize or dismiss what they feel. CONTINUE TO REASSURE AND SUPPORT. Their feelings are not going to dissipate overnight; they are going to need constant reassurance that their feelings are justified. You also

ESTABLISH ROUTINE, STRUCTURE, AND LIMITS. Separation and divorce are going to create major changes for your children. It’s important to set limits and a routine to keep some things consistent. They may act upset with the limits, but they will help them feel more secure in the long run. Family meals, bedtimes, and other routines become even important during a separation or divorce process. LOOK AT PROFESSIONAL HELP AND OUTSIDE RESOURCES. There may be times when your efforts and support are not enough. If they begin to act out or their emotional state worsens, find the proper professional to guide them. Your child’s school or even your attorney can be a great resource for locating the help you may need.

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