Out of the closet, into the fire Coming out is an intimidating experience for LGBTQ teens and, on the other side of the exchange, parents are also in a vulnerable position. It can be upsetting to learn that your child’s orientation may go against your personal beliefs or expose them to discrimination and ridicule. However, in this moment it’s crucial for parents to take a breath and remember the severe and lasting impact their momentary reaction will have. “I started looking for approval in other places because I couldn’t get it from my family,” Rembert explains. “It’s a dangerous mentality.” He sought his validation through a string of unhealthy relationships, including one with a closeted friend who physically assaulted Rembert in public to ward off suspicion that they were in a gay relationship. Rembert learned that he was positive for HIV in 2006. Not long after, he was set to attend Purdue University in Indiana. “I was so sick the whole drive to school. Throughout freshmen year I would sleep for days, wake up just to eat, and go to sleep again,” Rembert says. Eventually the routine took a toll on him and he returned to New York after a year and a half. He was experiencing intensified symptoms of depression and anxiety due to reactions from HIV medication. With his declining physical and mental health, along with a growing problem with substance abuse, his path to a healthy life was filled with endless trials.
A magical protection “It’s like living at Hogwarts,” Rembert says, talking about the LGBTQ Home for Hope. “The staff really understand and take care of us. ”It’s a drastic change from his last dwelling: a Philadelphia jail. In January 2015, he assaulted a man while high on meth and was arrested during his first night in the city. In prison he became catatonic, a state of immobility and abnormal behavior, until finally the staff medicated him. His parents, who had not known his whereabouts, found out about his arrest and current condition. They worked with a lawyer and social worker to have him removed from jail and sent to the LGBTQ Home for Hope, where Rembert found his refuge. Rembert hopes to share his experience and help shift the culture of shame surrounding HIV/AIDS and sexual orientation, individually and together. “I advise parents to be vigilant. Gay males especially can be easy prey. They’re in a delicate state at that age. There are predators in the LGBTQ community who will exploit this if they can. It’s easier now than ever, with Snapchat and Twitter.” Despite his own struggles as a delicate adolescent, Rembert is proof of thriving through the most difficult circumstances. At only 29 years old, Rembert combines his lively energy with a wisdom and articulation of someone who has already lived many lives. “I advise parents to be vigilant. Gay males especially can be easy prey.” -Joshua Rembert 55
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