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Dr. Narramore, graduate of Columbia University, New York City, is a psychologist and Consultant in Research and Guidance with one of the largest school systems in the United States.
SHOULD I DANCE W ITH M Y HUSBAND?
be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.” The husband has a special responsibility in the home. God has charged him with the role of leadership. He is to provide, to protect, to honor and to love. He’s the head of the home, and the wife should cooperate and respect her husband and be a dutiful mate. We also read in the Scriptures that our first responsibility is to God, so you see, you have a responsibility to cooperate with your husband in every way possible if that way does not plainly conflict with the teachings of the Bible. But if an unbelieving hus band asks his believing wife to take part in those things which she knows are not pleasing to God, then, of course, she has to refuse. However, I am sure that you can find many, many ways of cooperating with your husband in activities which are not harmful. You can never win your husband by getting down in a hole with him. Since you are saved, you are going to have to stand on firm ground your self, and as it were, give him a rope or lend him a helping hand. He certainly will not respect you as a Christian if you go out to dances with him, drink with the crowd, etc. You will never send him to some other woman’s arms because you refused to take part in activities that are not right. You are correct in that you have a responsibility in your local church teaching a Sunday school class, and leading boys and girls to the Saviour. These activities would be fruitless if you did not live a consecrated life. For your encouragement, may I quote a few sentences from a letter written to me a few days ago by a very fine Christian woman who is married to an unbeliever. She says:
“ I get rather provoked at people feel ing sorry for those of us who have unsaved mates. It seems to me our wonderful Lord has blessed us above most other Christians. He has drawn us so very near His precious side if we stand true to our convictions. “While my husband is out, or look ing at television, I am able to spend hours in the evening in Bible study and prayer. Most Christian couples I know go, go, go so much that I feel sorry for them. If we’re faithful in obedience to the Lord in training up our children, He will certainly keep His promises. I love my husband dear ly and want him saved. And I believe he will be at God’s appointed time. In the meantime, I can rejoice because this is God’s will for me. “ I am not alone in my experience in being married to an unbeliever. I’ve been in a prayer group with about 10 girls in my position and our ex perience has been somewhat the same. The Lord has undertaken in a won derful way. Praise His name.” ELECTRO-SHOCK THERAPY Q. Are electric shock treatments harm fu l? A. No, they are not considered harm ful unless the treatments are exces sive. Authorities claim that electro shock therapy is rarely injurious. In recent years such, treatment has proven highly beneficial. It has the advantage of seldom producing any complications. Administration of elec tro-shock treatments is not difficult, and the cost is relatively low. This type of treatment usually has a number of advantages over the in travenous injection of metrazol. How ever, just recently modified electro shock treatments, as well as the use of some new drugs, are reported as producing very excellent results.
Q. Neither my husband nor I was a Christian when we were married nine years ago. However, I gave my heart to Christ four years ago, and since that time I have endeavored to live a consecrated, Christian life. I teach a Sunday school class and it has been my privilege to win a number of them to the Lord. M y question is this: Should I go to dances with my husband? Immediately after my conversion I stopped drinking and going to danc es with him. A t first I may have wit nessed too much to my husband, but since then I have tried to live a sweet, consistent life before him. I am sure he loves me, as I do him, but he won't go to church or listen to any religious broadcasts. Do you think I may have to dance with him? He threatens to go dancing by himself, if I won’t go. He has said that if I danced with him, he would go to church with me. However, I would have to give up my Sunday school class and go to a church where they dance if I followed my husband’s suggestions. Furthermore, we have two sons, ages five and seven. They are both fine Christian lads. I’m afraid that changing churches and going to danc es would cause the boys to stumble and perhaps cause them to lose their faith entirely. Would I send my husband to some other woman’s arms because I didn’t dance with him? A. It seems to me that you have con siderable spiritual wisdom and that you have thought your, problem through pretty well. In God’s Word, 1 Peter 3:1, 2, we read, “ Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word
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