Issue 116


Grassroots with passion

ACT The third part of STAR is teaching our child to test their ideas in coping their emotions. A crying child may suggest to

REVIEW After your child acts on what they want to do, it is time to check in with them. It is time to help them review their idea if the coping mechanism yields positive or negative results. Ask your child “does playing with a toy help you feel better?” Or ask your child “does crying more help you feel better?” When your child tells you that the test idea did not help them feel better, go back to Think. Get them thinking or help them think of another possible coping method.

themselves that playing with toy will help them cope. Alternatively, they may even want to continue crying for a while more. At this point, most parents jump in straightaway to reject the idea that crying will not help them cope. However, the most important part of this segment is to allow your child to test their own ideas. Be patient as the critical part of the STAR method comes in the next part.

CONCLUSION The STAR method is all about more teaching and less telling. When you apply the STAR method and find yourself more like a guide than an instructor, you have successfully mastered the STAR methodology. Let me leave you with a quote that appropriately sums up the STAR methodology. “I have found the best way to give advice to your children, it is to find out what they want and then advise them to do it.” - Harry S. Truman, 33rd president of the United States of America The Author Aaron was previously a Mind Coach giving presentations and workshops to like-minded individuals who aim to achieve a healthy body through effective mental wellness strategies.

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