purchase our home. In the meantime, we’d received a backup offer that was $50K more than the original buyers’ offer. Between us moving the loan contingencies, them not getting financing, and those regular knocks on the door, we decided to cancel the sale and accept the backup offer. The backup offer was really appealing: not only was it for more money, but it was also all-cash. It was made by one of our neighbors, who happened to own a few houses on our street where his family and extended family lived. In fact, had we received his offer initially, we would’ve accepted it, but he didn’t place it till after we accepted the first one. Regardless, my wife and I were relieved to be out from under the washer-and-dryer drama and into a more lucrative deal. That is, till the day after we accepted. That’s when we got a call from our real estate agent, who told us that our neighbor was going to renege on his offer and, instead, offer us $50K less than our asking price. Since we had lost the first offer, he felt he was in a position of strength. Needless to say, we were angry, disappointed, and scared. Mostly because we had placed an offer on another house contingent on the sale of this one, and we were close to missing that contingency. Being that it was our first home sale, we had no idea what to do. Even our agent was at a loss. After all, this was our neighbor, with whom we exchanged pleasantries almost every day. Now, everything was awkward. We knew we couldn’t accept $50K less, and we also knew we’d lose the other house by starting over. But our limit was our limit. The morning we were going to cancel the sale, our neighbor stopped me, asking if I knew who he was. “Of course,” I said. “You’re the one trying to buy my house for far less than you originally promised.” He started interrogating me about why I was selling the house, asking questions regarding potential structural damage, plumbing issues, and foundation concerns. The house was structurally perfect. Then he got into why we lost the first buyers — what had they discovered? I explained that they weren’t able to get financing. Then he started asking me why my family would want to leave his neighborhood.
I explained that we were moving closer to our families, something I was sure he could appreciate. I had no idea why I was getting the third degree, but it started to become clear that he thought he had a lot more power than he actually did. It felt like he was hoping something was wrong with the house that made the original buyers back out. He made a completely incorrect assumption and then acted on it without discovering what was really going on. At the end of our conversation, he simply said, “You’re a good boy. You’re a good family man. I will honor my first offer. The deal will be closed by the end of the week.” To our surprise and relief, it was done as he promised. We were able to buy the house we wanted, where we still live today. Looking back with a negotiator’s eye, there were a number of lessons I took from that transaction: • Be prepared for the knock on the door. “No” was not the answer for the first buyer, who wanted our washer and dryer. Had we demanded something in return, I suspect the door-knocking would’ve stopped. • Make sure you know before you act. Our neighbor almost lost the sale because he acted before he understood the situation. Had he asked questions, he would’ve gathered enough information to act accordingly. Who knows: Maybe he could’ve paid a little less — just not a lot less. • Power is not forever. We thought we were in the driver’s seat when we had two offers. Then, when we had only one, things changed — almost to the point where we walked away. So, use your power while you have it because circumstances will change.
Good lessons for a hot housing market and beyond. I wish my current neighbors all the best, and I look forward to welcoming new neighbors to our block.
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