It’s Not the Phalange! by Brian Buck
campers. As we boarded, you could see the events’ cumulative impact on our faces. There was added aggression when securing storage space, not a lot of patience for others as they got settled, and a noticeably curt tone of voice directed at flight attendants.
“There’s something wrong with the left phalange!” If you’ve watched Friends , then you know the scene that led to panic and the deplaning of Rachel’s Paris-bound flight. I couldn’t get that scene out of my head as we tried to make our connection in Frankfurt to get home. Only this time, Phoebe’s phalange warning came in the form of a high-strung airline representative who sent 364 passengers into a frenzy. Our connecting flight arrived in Frankfurt right on time. Our flights that day were running smoothly, with no issues, and we had plenty of time to get to our gate and board the next plane for the final leg of our journey. But as we approached the gate, our sense of calm began
Everyone needed to chill.
Quite frankly, I see this a lot at the negotiating table too. We tend to reciprocate the other party’s emotions and behaviors. If one party is aggressive, then the other side tends to get aggressive. If one side doesn’t share information, then the other side tends to not share information.
to crumble. A swarm of passengers attempted to queue in order to board the plane. At the center of it all stood an airline representative who was shouting at everyone. He was attempting to get those whose passports had been checked to line
One of the easiest ways to control a negotiation’s tone is to control your emotions.
And so on.
Regardless of the leverage or power you wield at the table, one of the easiest ways to control a negotiation’s tone is to control your own emotions and actions. If the airline representative
had been calm, then the people around him would’ve been calm — which would’ve helped conciliate concerns or complaints. You can do the same in your own negotiations simply by changing your tone or behavior. If the other party is being aggressive toward you, or they’re not forthcoming with you, take a moment to evaluate how you’ve behaved. Is it possible that the other side is reciprocating what they’re getting from you? If that’s the case, then changing the negotiation’s direction begins with you. As for the flight, after we all settled into our seats, we calmed down. Still, it wasn’t the way we wanted to begin an 11-hour flight home. Next time, we’ll make sure the left phalange is a-OK!
up on one side of the gate, while everyone else lined up on the other side. Only, he didn’t explain that clearly, and passengers had no idea if their passports had been checked or not. “You need a stamp!” he kept yelling. More confusing still, the “stamp” wasn’t actually a stamp — it was a signature by some other security agent. Add to that, the monitors at the gate announced that it was time to board. In other words, it was a scene of mass confusion and utter chaos. It seemed that our agitated representative’s colleagues were just as confused: Their computer systems had shut down, and the agitated representative had turned on them, barking orders while trying to keep the passengers at bay. The more agitated he became, the more agitated the passengers and his colleagues became. Trickling through the electronic turnstile, we were a mob of unhappy
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