Don’t Drag Your 2019 Mistakes Into 2020 Enough Ruminating!
by saying, “That’s just my ruminations working overtime.”
negative headspace. HBR provides common example triggers that lead to rumination.
When mistakes happen, it always stings. However, if you can recover and learn from your mistakes, it could prove to be a powerful turning point in your life in the long run. But if you endlessly relive situations, wishing you’d make a different choice, then you’re never going to move forward. That mental replay when fretting over mistakes is called rumination. We’re worrying about something we literally cannot change. As a result, we end up berating ourselves again and again. Rumination isn’t just mentally exhausting; according to the Harvard Business Review (HBR), rumination is “closely linked to poor problem- solving, anxiety, and depression.” The good news is that if you’re the kind of person who keeps their mistakes on loop, there are simple strategies for breaking this toxic pattern.
Learn the Difference Between Rumination and Problem Solving
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Collaborating with people you don’t yet trust Being around people who seem smarter or more ambitious
People who ruminate tend to be worse at problem-solving. A 2006 study published in the Journal of Social & Clinical Psychology found that women who ruminate tended to wait longer to see a doctor after finding a breast lump. Rumination can cause you to put off making important decisions. To break out of rumination, HBR suggests asking yourself, “What’s the best choice right now, given the reality of the situation?” You can’t just forget about your mistakes. How will you learn from them? That being said, you can’t let your mistakes take up space in your head. Breaking the pattern of rumination is the only way to make sure 2019 mistakes don’t become 2020 hang-ups.
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Taking a step up in your career Making major money decisions
When you become aware of your triggers, you can catch yourself before you spiral.
Get Some Distance
It’s helpful to get distance from your problems, but rumination will follow you, even if you hop on a plane to some far-off island. Learn to get some psychological distance from your worries. You can do this by reframing your thoughts. If you find yourself thinking, “I’m unworthy,” correct yourself to “I’m feeling unworthy.” Sometimes, when you feel your rumination taking over, it can help to brush off the thoughts
Identify Your Triggers
What causes you to fall into rumination? Look back and make a list of what puts you in that
Inspired by Delish Roasted Cauliflower ‘Steaks’
A Vegan Take on Delicious Holiday Steak
As a vegan at a holiday gathering, it’s hard to find side dishes you can eat without fear. This year, don’t let your vegan loved ones go hungry. Roast these cauliflower “steaks,” delicious enough for even the most ardent carnivore.
Ingredients • 1 large head cauliflower • 2 cups Roma tomatoes • 1 red onion, quartered • 1/2 lb green beans, ends trimmed
• Kosher salt • 3 tbsp extra-virgin olive oil • 1 cup balsamic vinegar • 1/4 cup brown sugar • Parsley leaves, for garnish
Directions 1. Heat oven to 400 F. 2. Trim the leaves and stem from cauliflower, but do not break down further. (It should sit like a dome.) In the center of a large baking dish, place the cauliflower and surround it with tomatoes, onion, and green beans, and season with salt and olive oil. 3. Meanwhile, heat a small saucepan to medium-high, and whisk together vinegar and brown sugar. Bring to a boil, then turn down to low simmer, letting sauce reduce for 15 minutes. 4. Coat cauliflower in glaze and reserve extra for basting.
5. Roast for 1 hour, basting every 15 minutes. 6. Quarter cauliflower and serve with veggies.
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