Adjusting to being a caregiver
You have joined more than 60 million people in our communities who are unpaid caregivers. Giving care to a loved one is a centuries-old act of kindness, love and loyalty. However, you may feel pressure and even confusion at this time. Caregivers are natural helpers. They often give all their time and energy to their loved one, while putting their own feelings and needs aside. We are here to remind you: You cannot take care of someone else if you do not take care of yourself. The purpose of this section is to focus on you and your needs. This section will give tips on self-care and how to feel some control over what is happening in your life. We encourage you to: l Learn as much as you can about melanoma and its treatment options. The more you know, the more you can support your loved one and the better you’ll feel about your efforts. l Know your strengths and limits. How much of your time and yourself can you give? Set clear limits. For example, maybe you can’t attend every doctor visit, or need time off in the evenings or weekends. Tell those around you — doctors, family members and anyone involved in your loved one’s care — so they can better support you. l Accept your feelings. You are probably feeling many emotions right now — fear, sadness, anger or helplessness. These feelings are a common response to the stress and changes in your life, so allow yourself to feel them. l Confide in others. Talk to people about your feelings — it’s better than keeping them inside. For support, talk with a trusted friend or family member, join a caregiver support group or consider talking to a therapist or counselor. If you are reading this guide, you have likely received news that someone you love has been diagnosed with melanoma. This may feel overwhelming, but as a caregiver, it is important to know that you are not alone, and you have support!
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