talking it over with Dr. Clyde M. Narramore
Dr. Narramore, graduate of Columbia University, New York City, is a psychologist and Consultant in Research and Guidance with one of the largest school systems in the United States.
which you are now facing. God’s Word is plain in its teaching that we as parents are to care for our chil dren. This instruction is verified by experiences of many people who wish now they could somehow turn the calendar back twenty years and give their children the attention which they needed, rather than continuing to be employed outside of the home. May I encourage you to stay home as much as possible and care for your dear little one who is coming into your family. He needs your love and care, especially during the first few years. There is no more godly full time Christian work than caring for one of God’s dear creatures— especial ly your own. THREE-YEAR-OLD Question: / am the grandparent of a little boy who w ill soon be three years old. As yet he has not talked and he doesn’t seem to understand what you say when you talk to him— only the words “No-no” and “Let’s eat.” He seems to just ignore you when you talk to him. Many of his actions are still baby-like. He has been going through a series of tests and there are no physical de fects or brain damage. The doctor’s next step is to set up an appointment for him with the leading pediatrician of the children’s hospital. Could you advise what to do in this matter? Answer: You are wise to seek help for this child now rather than waiting until later. Much can be accom plished by working on a problem be fore it is too late. May I encourage you to continue the diagnostic tests which are being given by the medical doctors you mentioned. In addition, you should consider taking the child to a psychologist for examinations. It can soon be deter
mined whether your grandson is men tally retarded, and if so, the extent of the retardation. I have written a small booklet en titled: “ Boys and Girls Who Learn Slowly.” I am sending you a copy under separate cover, and I believe you will find it helpful in under standing your grandson. NOTE: I shall be happy to send the above-mentioned booklet to all who write for it this month. DAT ING Q. What is your opinion of dating during high school? A. I believe that young people should be encouraged to work together, play together, serve the Lord together and have good wholesome times together. Our personalities develop in a finer, more balanced manner when we have opportunity to mix with both boys and girls. Adults, who in their youth have not had experiences of mixing with both sexes, are often handicap ped as they endeavor to associate with men and women. A young minister once related how his parents discouraged him from ever dating until he was grown. He was led to believe that there was some thing evil about dating girls. It is probably unfortunate that we make such a distinction between dates and having good wholesome times to gether in groups. Parents and youth leaders can do much to provide and plan various activities in which groups of young people can have good times together, rather than to turn young people out to have dates which might require the use of a car, with no planned activities, no beneficial contacts with other young people, no planned re freshments, no arrangements for re turning home, and no spiritual in fluence.
TOO YOUNG? Question: / have been praying con cerning the Lord's w ill for my life. He has shown me that He wants me to go to a Bible school here. I am twenty years old and wonder how old a girl has to be, without getting married, to legally leave home. M y parents have other plans, and 1 know they w ill not care for this idea. Answer: The Word of God teaches us that we should obey our parents, but it does not teach us that we should put our parents before God. In other words, girls may become married without the consent of their parents by eighteen. If this is true, you, at twenty, certainly have the right to leave home and attend a fine Bible college. However, there are right and wrong ways of doing everything. I suggest that you talk with your parents a number of times about this, and I am sure that if you pray, God will work in their hearts so that they will be happy for you to further your educa tion and grow in the Lord Jesus Christ. Great things are wrought by prayer. W H ICH COMES FIRST? Question: M y husband and 1 are Chris tians and serve fu ll time in Christian work. W e have been married nearly a year and are expecting our first child. 1 must continue working here at our assignment during the day. M y nights are spent at home, except for prayer-meeting night. M y husband’s evenings are spent at work — away from home. I am wondering — does the Lord’s work or one’s fam ily come first? Answer: Many couples in Christian work have faced the same problem
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