Editor's Note: The author has prepared a penetrating "follow-up" to last month's special article, "Be Careful, Sis."
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I suppole^4ear/lTr^a^ of us there is a “ touch of Eve,” or whatever you want to call it, but we like to see a gleam in our mams eye. However, Marge, if we aren’t careful and allow the gleam to become a flame, then we have let ourselves get out of the Lord’s control It doesn’t seem fair, but we mustn’t wear this, or dress that way, because of boys. Sometimes we feel like saying, “Why should we do all the watching? Let the boys keep their minds clean.” Maybe it isn’t fair, but this is the way it is. Think of the influence you can have by helping boys to keep their minds clean and pure. “ All things work together for good . . .” Bud and I are both determined that if the Lord ever gives us a daughter we will both talk to her. I will do my best to give her the desire to be pure and clean in thought and deed. When she is old enough to become interested in boys, your brother will talk to her as he has written to you. The Lord gave us two parents for a reason. Remember, Marge, if there is a pile of dry sticks and someone drops a lighted match in it, it starts to burn. If it isn’t put out at once there is a fire and if there is a good breeze the fire can spread and cause much damage. The faulty can not be laid to the pile of sticks — the match started the fire. Sometimes it is what we girls wear (or don’t wear) that can act as the match. May the Lord guide you as you start into your wonderful teen-years. May they be the happy, instructive, and constructive beginning of a lovely young woman. With all my love and prayers, Sally
Dear Marge, Bud let me see the letter he wrote to you. I am so glad he wrote it. May I add a little? I wish I had received a letter like Bud’s about a year and one-half ago. Well, the past is gone, but the Lord gives us a new start with each “ unopened” day. This may soud a little strange, but, honey, some of the things Bud said in his letter came as a surprise to me — even now. How true it is that we cannot know the innermost emotions and thoughts of another, even one near and dear. Your brother seems to feel that my mother was wrong for letting me wear a strapless dress. Of course, he isn’t putting all the blame on her and neither am I. However, I’m sure it was just plain “not thinking” on mother’s part. One thing mothers should not indulge in! Me? I honestly didn’t know any better. I loved Bud dearly (and still do ), it was my first formal, and I wanted to be lovely for him. I tried on other gowns, gowns with straps, some with little sleeves even, but there was something more attractive (or did I think I looked glamorous?) about the strapless one with my dark hair almost down to my bare shoulders. If I were to blame anyone besides Bud and me, I think part of it would go to Daddy. He knows the emotional make-up of the male. All he said when he saw the dress, was, “Wow! You’ll knock their eyes out in that.” Of course, as Daddy said later, he was looking at me at his little girl “ grown-up,” forgetting that to Bud I was grown up.
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JUNE, 1964
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