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CHICKEN AND LEEK FILO PIE
Inspired by GoodHousekeeping.com
INGREDIENTS
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3 oz unsalted butter, divided
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3 tbsp heavy cream
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2 large leeks, finely sliced
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12 oz cooked chicken, cut into chunks
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2 large carrots, finely chopped
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2 tbsp chopped fresh parsley
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1 tbsp flour
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12 sheets frozen filo pastry, thawed
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14 oz chicken stock, warmed
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2 tsp Dijon mustard
DIRECTIONS
1. Preheat oven to 350 F. 2. In a pan over low heat, melt 1 oz butter. 3. Add leeks and carrots and cook for 15 minutes, until softened but not colored. 4. Stir in flour and cook for 1 minute. 5. Gradually add chicken
cooked chicken and parsley. Transfer to a large ovenproof dish. 7. In a pan, melt remaining butter. 8. Put a single filo sheet on a board and brush with melted butter. Scrunch up pastry sheet and place on top of chicken mixture. Continue until pie is covered.
stock, stirring until sauce is smooth, then let simmer for 10 minutes.
9. Bake for 20–25 minutes,
6. Stir in mustard and
until the filo is golden and chicken mixture is bubbling.
heavy cream, then add
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