TAKE A BREAK
The Pitfalls of Providing Solutions
How to Help Our Children Solve Problems Independently
Our children will encounter countless challenges and complex problems throughout their lives. As parents, we want nothing more than to put them on the right track and
help them find solutions, but we might not always take the best approach. Often, we try to give them the answers
to the problems they’re facing to provide support. While this helps them overcome the obstacle, it
could also stunt the development of their problem-solving skills.
LIME CHICKEN WITH CORN AND POBLANO SALAD
Let’s say your toddler is working on a puzzle. They keep placing pieces in the wrong spot and grow frustrated
when nothing fits properly. You may want to offer a helping hand and direct them to the pieces they need, but this isn’t going to help them in the long run. Any time they encounter a problem, they’ll look to others for a solution. Instead, encourage and support them by saying something like, “Those puzzles can be hard, but you’ll get the hang of it.” That encouragement will help them push through the challenge until they figure out the solution independently. You can use this same tactic throughout your children’s lives. When they’re learning to read and experience difficulty pronouncing words, encourage them to sound them out instead of telling them directly how to pronounce them. When teenagers struggle with a friendship, don’t offer solutions that may have worked for you in the past; simply confirm their feelings and tell them you’ve had similar experiences. By supporting your kids’ efforts and affirming their feelings, you’re empowering them to problem-solve and overcome any obstacles in their path. It’s not easy watching your children struggle with problems, but they must work out solutions independently or else they will likely struggle to form solutions well into adulthood. The next time your child comes to you with a problem, or you notice them struggling on their own, try to offer support instead of a solution. It can go a long way toward their personal growth!
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Chicken • 3 tbsp olive oil Ingredients
Corn and poblano salad • 2 tbsp olive oil • 2 poblano peppers, diced • 2 garlic cloves, minced • 1 14-oz can of corn • 4 scallions, minced • Juice of 2 limes • 1/3 cup chopped cilantro • Salt and pepper
• 1 cup all-purpose flour • 1 1/2 tsp garlic powder • 1/2 tsp cayenne pepper • 1 1/2 tsp salt • 3/4 tsp black pepper • Zest of 1 lime • 8 chicken thighs Directions 1. Preheat oven to 400 F.
2. In a large oven-proof skillet, heat olive oil over medium heat. 3. In a bowl, whisk flour, spices, and lime zest. Dredge chicken in the mix to coat. 4. Add chicken, skin-side down, to skillet, then place skillet in the oven for 30–35 minutes. 5. In a medium skillet, heat olive oil and add poblanos. Sauté 4–5 minutes. Add garlic and sauté for another minute. 6. In a bowl, add poblano mix, corn, scallions, lime juice, and cilantro, toss and serve with the chicken.
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