BY LADY LORETTA JONES
WOMEN IN BIG HATS, DRESSED TO PERFECTION. PINK TABLECLOTHS ADORNED WITH BEAUTIFUL FLORAL ARRANGEMENTS. A DECADENT MENU PREPARED FOR ROYALTY. CHANDELIERS SHIMMERING AS THE GUEST BEGAN TO TAKE THEIR SEATS. THIS IS WHAT WE WALKED INTO AS WE ATTENDED THE HIGHLY ANTICIPATED HIGH TEA HOSTED BY LADY LORETTA JONES OF CITY OF REFUGE CHURCH IN GARDENA, CALIFORNIA.
HOW CAN I GET MY PARTNER TO LOVE ME ACCORDING TO MY LOVE LANGUAGE?
MOST COUPLES DO NOT HAVE THE SAME LOVE LANGUAGE. COUPLES SHOULD MAKE IT A PRIORITY TO LEARN THE OTHER PARTNER’S LOVE LANGUAGE. IF YOU DON'T FEEL LOVE FROM YOUR PARTNER, YOU CAN EXPRESS TO THEM HOW YOU FEEL. YOU CAN EXPRESS THINGS LIKE, “YOU KNOW I'M FEELING EMPTY”. IF YOUR PARTNER DOESN’T RESPOND TO YOUR FEELINGS OR DOESN’T FEEL THAT IT'S WORTH FILLING YOUR TANK, HE MAY NOT BE EQUIPPED TO FILL YOU OR MAY NOT CARE. YOU KNOW WHEN YOUR LOVE TANK IS FILLED WHEN YOU FEEL SATISFIED, VALIDATED, SEEN AND WORTHY. YOUR PARTNER HAS POURED INTO YOU, AND YOU’VE POURED INTO YOURSELF.NOT ONLY DOES YOUR PARTNER’S LOVE HELP YOU BUT THE LOVE YOU HAVE FOR YOURSELF, FIRST IS VALID AND MOST IMPORTANT. EVERYBODY LOVES DIFFERENT. EVERYBODY REQUIRES SOMETHING DIFFERENT. SO, WE'RE HERE TO LEARN EACH OTHER AND LOVE EACH OTHER AND FIND OUT WHAT IS EACH OTHER’S LOVE LANGUAGE.
WHEN THE PROGRAM BEGAN, WE SAT UP STRAIGHT, WITH CHINS RAISED AND SHOULDERS BACK AS LADY LORETTA SO ELOQUENTLY TOOK US THROUGH AFFIRMATIONS TO PREPARE US FOR A DEEP TEACHING ON THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES.
HERE IS WHAT WE LEARNED:
THE MOST COMMON LOVE LANGUAGE
THE MOST BEAUTIFUL THING IS FINDING YOUR LOVE MATE. IT IS BEAUTIFUL WHEN YOU KNOW THAT YOU LOVE YOUR MATE AND THEY LOVE YOU. THE MOST COMMON LOVE LANGUAGE OUT OF ALL LOVE LANGUAGES IS QUALITY TIME. ACROSS THE NATION, SURVEY RESPONDENTS REVEALED THAT THE LOVE LANGUAGE AMERICANS RESONATED WITH MOST IS QUALITY TIME. I THINK THE REASON WHY WE LIKE QUALITY TIME IS BECAUSE IT MAKES US FEEL LOVED AND IMPORTANT. A STATEMENT IS MADE WHEN SOMEONE CARVES OUT A PORTION OF THEIR DAY TO BE WITH YOU. IT COMMUNICATES THAT YOU ARE WORTH IT. IF YOUR MATE IS NOT WILLING TO SPEND QUALITY TIME WITH YOU THEN WHAT DO YOU ACTUALLY HAVE? YOU HAVE TO MAKE TIME FOR PEOPLE YOU LOVE AND THE PEOPLE YOU CARE ABOUT.
Lady Loretta Jones
THE LOVE LANGUAGE OF MEN
THE GREATEST NEED OF A MAN IS RESPECT. THE WAY YOU SPEAK TO YOUR HUSBAND CAN EITHER BUILD HIM UP TO BECOME A MONUMENT OR REDUCE HIM TO RUBBLE. WOMEN, SPEAK WITH WISDOM AND LOVE. EVEN IN YOUR ANGER, SPEAK WITH GENTLENESS. IN DOING THIS, YOUR HUSBAND FEELS RESPECTED, AND THIS IS THE GREATEST THING YOU COULD EVER DO FOR HIM. THIS IS THE NUMBER ONE LOVE LANGUAGE FOR THE BISHOP. HE WANTS AND NEEDS FOR ME TO RESPECT HIM. EVEN WHEN I ARGUE, I ARGUE VERY SOFTLY. I DON'T RAISE MY VOICE. OUR HUSBANDS WANT TO BE RESPECTED. THEY WANT TO FEEL HONORED. THEY WANT TO BECHERISHED AND THEY WANT MUSHY AFFECTION. MEN ALSO LIKE WOMEN WHO ARE BUSY. THEY LIKE WOMEN WHO WORK. THEY CAN'T DO LAZINESS. MEN RESPECT INDEPENDENT, STRONG, AND RESILIENT WOMEN. THIS IS THE PROVERBS 31 WOMAN. I READ THIS CHAPTER DAILY FOR FOUR MONTHS PRIOR TO GETTING MARRIED AND IT IMPARTED IN ME DEEP LESSONS ON HOW TO BE A VIRTUOUS WOMAN, WHOSE PRICE IS FAR ABOVE RUBIES. MY HUSBAND TRUSTS SAFELY IN ME BECAUSE I GREATLY ENRICH HIS LIFE.
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