Relationships break up for lots of reasons. Often it’s no-one’s ‘fault and nobody is to blame, things just weren’t working out. Sometimes a break-up can bring a sense of relief, especially if the relationship was making you unhappy. However, it can also bring on a range of difficult feelings such as disbelief (“it’s not really over”), guilt, sadness, anger, or worry, and may lead you to feeling rejected, lonely or confused. Dealing with a break-up Recovery and a return to normal emotional balance is a gradual process and it takes time. Feeling better can’t be forced or hurried. It’s normal to feel sad after a relationship split and it takes time to get over the loss of a relationship. You might feel as though your world has turned upside down and that things will never be good again. The strength of your feelings might be alarming and you may be tearful, feel restless, or have less motivation or energy to do things. Your appetite and sleep might also be disturbed. It is important to remember that with time and support most people get over relationship break- ups, sometimes feeling stronger than before.
Some things to remember Whatever you’re feeling now won’t last forever. It may take time before you feel you have ‘moved on’, but you will. Expect to have some good and bad days. If it was your decision to end the relationship it doesn’t necessarily make the break-up any easier to deal with. It’s still normal (and okay) to feel sad and to miss the other person. The end of a relationship doesn’t mean that there is anything wrong with you. Try not to take it personally - relationship break-ups are common. You don’t have to be in a relationship to feel happy. It’s better to not be in a relationship than to be in a bad one. It’s okay to feel angry or hurt, but be sure you are safe in how you express your feelings. Don’t act out your anger or do spiteful things. Don’t follow your ex around, call them all the time or harass them online. This sort of behaviour doesn’t make you feel better, perhaps worse. Try not to feel embarrassed or to worry about how the situation will look to others. Remember that break-ups can have a positive side. You can learn about yourself and what you want from future relationships. You can develop coping skills, become more independent, have more time to spend with friends and do the things that you enjoy.
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