Some things that might help you feel better Let yourself be upset – Dealing with your emotions will help you heal and feel better. Look after yourself – Try to eat healthy, keep sleeping and exercise routines. Be realistic when thinking about your ex and the relationship – It’s common to remember only the good things about the person and the relationship. Be honest with yourself – it’s rare for a relationship or a person to be perfect. Remembering the things that weren’t so great will make it easier to move on. Try to limit how much you think about your ex by finding things that will distract you. Think positively and try some new things. Give yourself some space – You don’t need to shut your ex out of your life but it might be helpful to try to avoid him/her for a while after the break-up. Keep busy – You might find yourself with more much free time, especially at weekends. Plan ahead and do things that you usually enjoy. Take time out for you – Do things that you find relaxing, like watching a movie, listening to music, or anything you enjoy doing. Treat yourself – Buy yourself a treat or do something that you really like. Talk to friends and family and others who can support you – It’s okay to want to be on your own but getting support can also be a big help. You can also get a different perspective by talking things through with others. Don’t use drugs or alcohol to deal with the pain – Alcohol and drugs might help you feel better at first but the after-effects will leave you feeling much worse. Give it time – Allow yourself some time to cope with the change. Breaking up with someone If you’re breaking up with someone, try to be considerate in ending the relationship. Think about how you would want to be treated in the same situation.
Try to end things in a way that respects the other person, but be honest. Clearly state that the relationship is over and why. Understand that the other person is likely to be hurt and perhaps angry about your decision. End the relationship face-to-face wherever possible, rather than by text, Facebook, or by email. When your ex moves on It can be especially hard when you find out that your ex has a new relationship. If this happens Try to avoid thinking about them being with someone else as it can be really painful. Don’t contact your ex or lash out at them for being in a new relationship. It won’t make you feel any better. If you are struggling with anger or jealousy you need to make sure you stay safe when dealing with these feelings. Talk to somebody about it and get some help if you need it.
Thinking about a new relationship?
Take all the time you need in beginning another relationship. Think about what you want in your next relationship but try to feel confident about being single for a while.
When should you get some help? Break-ups hurt but people usually get over them in time and without any serious problems. If you are struggling it is important to talk things through with someone like a friend or family member. Nescot student wellbeing is based in the Safeguarding & Wellbeing Hub. If you are struggling with your wellbeing please drop by and arrange to chat with one of the student wellbeing coaches. Alternatively, you can speak to your tutor who can refer you.
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