'ttoUUfUfUOP 0 t with Dr. Clyde M. Narramore Dr. Narramore, graduate of Columbia University, New York City, is a nationally known psychologist. He is the director of one of America’s largest psy chological clinics / The Christian Counseling Center in Rosemead, California.
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at your Christian bookstore. I think you would find it helpful. You may want to consider having your daugh ter go to a Christian school where she could have fine Christian friends. You may also need to encourage her to play with children that she tends to shy away from. A little encourage ment and understanding on your part will help this child a great deal. I want to thank you for your wonder ful letter. Q. In my Sunday school class for senior highs we have a couple sets of romancers who are quite free with their love-making. Their parents and the pastor have talked with them — with no apparent success. What ad vice can you give me as their teach er? A . Any time you get older teen-agers together you are likely to have a few romancers. This is very natural. They are developing and beginning to have strong sexual feelings. It is better for them to show some affec tion around the church than to go under cover outside of the church. They are telling you several things by this behavior. They have basic emotional, physical and spiritual, needs. They are revealing a lack of knowledge about sex, dating, court ship, personality and many other things. Presentation of material along these lines would not only help the romancers, but also others in your class as well. You might also get some excellent books for these young people to read; then have discussion with them. One such book — Life and Love — gives a wholesome Christian discussion of sex, dating, looking toward marriage and the like. You will find, I’m sure, that this will foster better attitudes in the hearts and minds of your young people. Keep some of these books on hand in your church library. And, adults, may I say this: These young people need someone to en courage them. It is so easy for us to become impatient, forgetting what we were doing and feeling at 16. TEEN-AGE ROMANCES IN SUNDAY SCHOOL CLASS
CHILD WITHDRAWS Q. I find, your suggestions are always so helpful, and would like your help on a problem we have. My nine-year- old suffered from ill health in the past, but is now cured. She missed many years of play and socializing loith other children. So she has al ways had a difficult time dealing hap pily with them. Children have little cruelties which are hard for her to understand and she is easily hurt by them. She is a sensitive child and over-protected. I can see now that my method of pro tecting myself as a child was to with draw from people, put myself on an other plane and criticize their be havior with sarcasm. How can I help my little girl so she will not follow in the same paths, but learn to live happily with other children? I would appreciate your suggestions. A . I think you are very wise indeed to consider this problem. As you see, unless you give this girl help, she probably will do what you did as a child and she’ll have the same prob lems you have encountered. There are several things you can do to help a child like this who has been ill and does not know how to get along well with other children. First of all, spend considerable time counseling with her. I don’t mean lecturing her. As you have op portunity each day and evening, just talk with her about her friends and how she gets along with them. Ask her how she feels. Make helpful sug gestions. In this way you can guide her carefully into good relationships with other children. This is so im portant. As one grows up, his ability to work with others depends largely on how well he got along with others in childhood. Also you can help this child have a close walk with the Lord Jesus Christ. This will mean so much. As she walks with the Lord, He will give her wisdom and a spiritual out look. She’ll have a new dimension in life which will help her more than anything else. If possible, get my book How To Understand And Influence Children
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