THE SALACIOUS STORY OF BALDASSARRE COSSA FROM PIRATE TO POPE
How Gray Rocking Can Help You Navigate Narcissistic Jabs DULL THE DRAMA Though spring is bursting with vibrant colors, if you are dealing with a narcissist in your relationship, it can be difficult to see anything with a rosy hue. Sometimes, it’s necessary to take on a different shade. Gray rocking is a simple yet effective technique to help you maintain your peace while navigating the rocky waters of a toxic relationship. Just as an uninteresting boulder can fade into the background, this method involves becoming as unemotional and non-reactive as possible, cutting off a person’s narcissistic supply. Let’s explore why gray rocking may help protect you from further conflict and abuse. WHAT IS GRAY ROCKING? Gray rocking is a method designed to cause a narcissist or relationship bully to lose interest in the target of their abuse or put-downs. When someone is trying to harm you emotionally, such as calling you names, gaslighting you, or putting you down in front of others, you should respond with the least amount of emotion possible. With gray rocking, you will stick to short, straightforward answers. Remain neutral and brief, and minimize your body language. Abusive people feed on submission and are looking for a reaction from you. SHOULD I GO GRAY? The gray rock method may be a good option for you if you are experiencing narcissism or toxic tactics from your partner. This is a short-term technique you can use to shield yourself from conflict. But you deserve a full range of colors in your life and the chance to express yourself freely. If your relationship drains you, makes you feel unsafe, or is causing you unhappiness, it may be time to leave. Gray rocking can help you get through arguments, but if you have to remain neutral and uninteresting all the time with your partner, it’s a sign that you need to reconsider the relationship. Gray rocking can be a helpful tool to protect your peace in the short term, but it’s not the solution to an unhealthy relationship. Remember, you deserve a life full of brightness, not the dullness of emotional survival tactics. Though you can tone down the sting of a narcissist’s jabs with this technique, you are worthy of a life where your true colors shine.
History is littered with unsavory souls forever scorned for their foul deeds. But few scoundrels reached greater depths of depravity than the ill-famed pirate Baldassarre Cossa (1370–1419), otherwise known as Pope John XXIII.
Following a notorious career of robbing and pillaging, Cossa manipulated his way to prominence in the Catholic Church, eventually reigning as Pope John XXIII from 1410 to 1415. An avid fan of indulgences of the flesh, he is said to have bedded hundreds of women — including nuns — during his controversial reign. Cossa’s one-man sinning spree eventually landed him in prison, yet remarkably, he was named Cardinal-Bishop of Tusculum shortly before passing away.
Cossa’s infamy makes it no surprise that he is now known as “Antipope” John XXIII. The name “Pope John XXIII” was retired for centuries before a man better suited to hold the moniker chose it and ran the Catholic Church from 1958 to 1963.
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