Talking to Your Adolescent About Relationships
With Valentine’s Day approaching, stores are filled with chocolates, stuffed animals, and cards for significant others. Love is in the air! Even though you may not realize it, your kids may also be feeling the pressure. Crushes, dates, and broken hearts are part of their lives, too, but they may struggle to talk with you about it. Thankfully, developmental experts have weighed in on how to approach these important and delicate conversations. Judith Myers-Walls, professor emeritus of child development at Purdue, urges parents not to treat their kids’ crushes as silly. We may know these early expressions of love aren’t that serious in the long run, but to an adolescent, the emotions are very powerful. “They are very easily embarrassed about those feelings,” Myers-Walls observes, “so parents and other adults should be respectful and not tease about those issues.” Rather than make kids feel ashamed of these early romantic feelings, let them know you’re there to talk to them about it. No Laughing Matter
to consider,” he writes, explaining that adolescents tend to only focus on their own feelings and need to learn to consider how their crush may feel about them. This awareness might prevent them from overstepping someone else’s comfort zone.
At the same time, kids and teens should know the importance of respecting their own feelings. Setting boundaries can be especially important when your child is confronted with an unwanted Valentine’s Day card or request for a date and feels pressured to reciprocate. “Boundary setting is imperative to learn during adolescence because it is a time of identity formation,” writes Dr. Marilyn Price-Mitchell in Psychology Today. “Healthy boundaries allow teens to feel respected, valued, and empowered to build positive relationships in their lives.” It also helps them handle uncomfortable social situations with grace and maturity. Crushes and first dates are a part of growing up, as is learning how to contribute to healthy relationships. Much like a first step or learning to drive, patient, loving parental support makes all the difference.
Dr. David Anderson, a clinical psychologist at the Child Mind Institute, believes it’s especially important to talk to adolescents about respecting boundaries. “One of the big lessons we want to be sending to kids at any age is that there are two people
Losing Sleep Over Your Tax Debt? Have No Fear, IRS Payment Plans Are Here
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for tax season and find that you’re short, you have options that may make tax season a little less stressful — as long as you’re realistic with your approach. If you work with a licensed IRS representative, they can help you establish a fair and reasonable payment plan. There are a couple of different ways to set these up, but they’re all dependent upon filing your taxes on time. During your filing, you can submit an installment agreement request by mail, phone, or online. From there, the IRS will review your request and your tax account to determine if you meet their guidelines. However, if you owe $10,000 or less, you’re much more likely to get a payment plan that best suits your needs. If you’re uncertain about your eligibility, there are a few other key factors you need to be aware of. You are liable to pay off your debt within a strict time frame allotted by the IRS. Otherwise, you’re
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