TURN YOUR RAINY DAY AROUND — WITH A FORT!
3 T ransformative B lanket F ort T ips April showers are supposed to bring May flowers, but when the rain keeps pouring, there’s only one thing for a family to do: Build a blanket fort! Blanket forts have been a low-cost, low-tech form of entertainment for centuries, and over that time, generations of enthusiasts have perfected them. Use these tips to transform your next rainy day into a family adventure: 1. Build heaviest to lightest. Once you’ve gathered your materials — including blankets, sheets, pillows, binder clips, and movable furniture — it’s time to build. Start “heavy” with the largest piece of furniture, like a couch or table. That will be the anchor of your fort. From there, arrange the other furniture in a circle around the anchor and drape it with blankets. Use heavier blankets for the walls and the lightest sheets for your roof to avoid a collapse. Use the binder clips to hold the sheets and blankets together! 2. Light it up. Light is crucial for you to do activities in your fort! Dig out your holiday string lights if you have them or bring a lamp or two into the space. You can also use flashlights and even glow sticks to make things especially fun! 3. Pick a theme — and a name . Is your fort in the jungle? On a beach? In the woods? Pick a theme and decorate accordingly! You can bring in beach towels and toys or cut leaves and trees out of construction paper. Don’t forget to name your fort, too. The more creative you get, the better.
So, now you have your fort — what should you do in it? We’re glad you asked! The answers are almost unlimited, but here are a few favorites:
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Drink hot chocolate Tell ghost stories
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Make a craft project
Have a family jam session (if you’re all musical)
Read (out loud or separately!)
Do a puzzle
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Eat your favorite snack
Play a board game/card game Pretend you’re on an adventure in another country
Snuggle
“Camp” overnight
Perform a shadow puppet show
HANDLING PROJECTION DURING A DIVORCE
T he N arcissist ’ s D eadly W eapon
Our firm specializes in divorce and family law cases that are complicated by narcissism and other personality disorders. If your ex is a narcissist, then you’ve probably experienced some of the toxic traits they bring to a relationship. One of the most prominent among all narcissists is projection. Psychology Today states that projection is the process of displacing one’s feelings onto a different person, animal, or object. The term is most commonly used to describe defensive projection — attributing one’s own unacceptable urges to another. For example, if someone continuously bullies and ridicules a peer about their insecurities, the bully might be projecting their own struggle with self-esteem onto the other person. By projecting faults onto others, the narcissist avoids self-examination and reflection. To give an example, think of a situation where a narcissistic man desperately craves extramarital attention from the opposite sex. Suddenly, he might start accusing his wife of “showing off” or dressing immodestly to try and get attention from other men. He
effectively avoids thinking about his own need for attention and feels self-righteous anger instead.
If you’re dealing with narcissistic projections from an ex or significant other, confronting them is likely useless. You should expect resistance in the form of denial or anger. In many situations, the narcissist’s behavior stems from their subconscious so they aren’t actively aware of it. If you’re dealing with narcissistic projections during a divorce, you can do a few things to make the situation easier on yourself. First, let go of the need to convince the narcissist of their projections. You can’t force them to self-inspect. Make sure you keep any evidence of their behaviors close at hand and hire a specialist who can rightfully handle your case. Therapy is another useful tool if the narcissist’s projections have made you feel insecure.
If you’re going through a divorce or family law matter complicated by narcissism, bipolar disorder, or other mental illnesses, give our office a call.
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