The Hidden Benefits of Divorce
It’s Not All Bad!
When you’re in the throes of a difficult divorce, it can be difficult to feel anything but pain and remorse. It’s the end of something you and your spouse built together, and despite all the ways your relationship has become fractured over the years, it’s always hard to leave it behind. But while you’re finalizing your divorce papers and dealing with the pain of the past, a new era of your life begins, flush with opportunities and personal freedom. Divorce doesn’t have to be a source of despair for the rest of your life — in fact, many studies show that it can have significant positive effects. Here are three facts that will help you keep an optimistic eye toward the future. 1. Divorce can make you healthier. A few people may cluck their tongue at you when they learn of your divorce, thinking to themselves how you should have “stuck it
out.” But, as anybody who’s actually been stuck in a horrible relationship can tell you, toughing it out can wreak havoc not only on your emotions, but on your physical and mental health as well. Numerous studies indicate that bad marriages can contribute to problems ranging from depression to stomach ulcers, heart disease, death, and even increased risk of cavities in your teeth. 2. Divorce can make you happier. In 2013, London’s Kingston University completed a study that gauged people’s happiness levels after major life milestones. For 20 years, 10,000 individuals between the ages 16 and 60 were questioned regularly. They were asked to rate their personal happiness and contentment levels before and after big events. Both men and women experienced a marked increase in happiness following a
divorce, with women in particular exhibiting drastically increased happiness levels for as many as five years afterward. 3. Divorce can make you richer. There’s no escaping the fact that divorce is expensive. But, especially if you’re a woman, it may spur increased earnings growth over time, and it certainly encourages financial independence. When researchers at the University of Connecticut looked back 40 years to examine the effect of divorce on income, the greatest income increases happened with divorced women who never remarried. What’s more, they had smoother retirements. And while you may not want to dissolve a union for a few extra bucks, it’s certainly reassuring to know that you can bounce back after undergoing this financial and emotional nightmare.
Inside-Out Grilled Ham and Cheese
• 8 ounces ham, thinly sliced • 1/2 pound Swiss cheese, sliced • 2 tablespoons Dijon mustard • 1/4 cup apricot preserves
• 8 slices of bread (Pullman works best) • 4 tablespoons unsalted butter, room temperature • 1/2 cup freshly grated Parmesan cheese
directions 1. Butter each slice of bread on the outsides and sprinkle with Parmesan. 2. Layer ham and cheese evenly on top of 4 slices of bread. 3. Spread apricot preserves and mustard across the other 4 slices. Press sandwiches together. 4. In a cast-iron skillet or large sauté pan over medium heat, grill sandwiches until golden, about 3 minutes per side. 5. Cut in half and serve.
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