like this: “I’m sorry for lying to you about going to the strip club with my friends five years ago, but it was a one-time thing, and I owed Johnny a favor, and besides, I only stayed 10 minutes, excuse, excuse, excuse.” These excuses negate the apology and put salt in the wound. It turns this small thing in the past to a big, ugly thing years later. So, simply say this: “I’m sorry for __________. I know it really hurt you. I blew it. Will you please forgive me?” Then, take a breath and listen. No rebuttals, no explanations. Just listen. When they are done speaking, simply say, “I blew it. Will you please forgive me?” That’s it! Simple, clean, and easy. Are you ready to cash in that super lottery ticket? Then take action now! God bless. Special Bonus: Get our new book for FREE by visiting Ha pilyEverAfterBook.org.
Now, I can lay down a great script and you could recite it word for word, but if you’re not truly seeking forgiveness, it will still be crap. You need to be ALL-IN on seeking forgiveness; you need to fully embrace the reboot. The good news is that if you do, it will pay off like a super lottery ticket. Why wait? Let’s cash it in!
Step No. 1. Go to a quiet place in the house with your spouse, take a walk, go to a park, etc.
Step No. 2. Say, “I’m sorry for my past crappy apologies. I have not fully seen, heard, or recognized you. Will you PLEASE forgive me?” Step No. 3. This may be as far as you get. There may be lots of tears and some great discussions. This is a great time to just reconnect with your spouse. Step No. 4. This may be the same day or a different day. The same rules apply. Go to a place where you can be alone with no phones or screens. Fully apologize for the events in the past that your spouse keeps bringing up. It sounds like this: “I’m sorry for ___________. I know it really hurt you. I blew it. Will you please forgive me?” PSALM 116 “Relax and rest; be confident and serene, for the Lord rewards fully those who simply trust in him.” A few seasons ago, Aaron Rodgers, star quarterback of the Green Bay Packers, made headlines when he told the fan base to “R-E-L-A-X” with regard to the team’s losing record. Now the creator of the universe is telling us the same thing. All we need to do is relax and trust Him. Do we really think we can do a better job than God? Our real job is to trust and obey Him and do what He asks. Will you? WisdomSource From the The biggest mistake people make in an apology is when they try to justify or make excuses for what they did . It sounds
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the Scriptures alive and has made all the difference for me. The footnotes are truly game-changing. It’s a spectacular read.
STEP NO. 3: ENJOY AN UNPLUGGED MEAL WITH FAMILY
In our family, we average six family dinners a week. How do we pull this off with our teens’ ballet classes, parkour classes, and other activities? Simple: We find a way instead of finding an excuse . Sometimes we have dinner early and other times we have it later, but it’s worth it so we can all sit at the table together unplugged. Full disclosure: Lately, the arguing between our son and daughter during dinner over the silliest things has become an eye-roller for my bride and me. However, we are firmly committed to the lifestyle of family dinners, and we know that it will pay huge dividends. When it comes to eating out, which is about once per week, we choose a healthy restaurant with no TVs. If there happens to be a TV, we sit as far away as possible. These family dinners are key to our strong bond and connection. I can’t explain exactly how this washes off the world daily, but it really helps, and I know it will work for you. Enjoy your new “clean” lifestyle.
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