You can see how these stories could change from person to person , place to place , and of course , gather further evidence around you that you are “ not as bad ” as someone else so “ why should you ….?” And the answer is simple - because it will be better for you . Because maybe just maybe a better life lies on the other side . This thing on your “ list ” is there because it is the small voice inside of you that wants more for you , the voice that wants to try , it thinks you deserve an opportunity to live happier , or more organized , or healthier , or more mentally free . It ’ s the voice that understands that there might be hard work at the forefront of whatever you want to do , but that the payoff will be worth it and YOU will be the beneficiary . Stephen Pressfield who wrote ( one of the many books on my nightstand ,) The War of Art : Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles , says “ resistance is a sign that you are dreaming big and that you ’ re on the right track .” Resistance is also connected * directly * to fear . In her book ( that I actually read ! Gold star for me !) Big Magic , Elizabeth Gilbert talks about how when she realized that fear and resistance went hand in hand and she accepted that fear was not permanently removable , she decided to write Fear a letter so that they could both understand the terms on which Fear would always be welcome to join the ride . She wrote , “ Fear : I recognize and respect that you are part of this family , and so I will never exclude you from our activities , but still - your suggestions will NEVER be followed . You ’ re allowed to have a seat and you ’ re allowed to have a voice , but you are not allowed to have a VOTE . You’re not allowed to touch the road maps; you’re not allowed to suggest detours; you’re not allowed to fiddle with the temperature. DUDE, you’re not even allowed to touch the radio. But above all else, my dear old familiar friend, you are absolutely FORBIDDEN to drive

So when you want to scold yourself for being lazy or weak or flaky for not jumping at the opportunity to do something new that you wish you would , remember - it means you ’ re onto something good . It ’ s actually a red flag to “ look over here !”, and just try for a moment , to consider yourself brave . It ’ s scary to face things that ignite fear . However, once you acknowledge that, it can take some of the powerlessness out of the situation . Then you have the opportunity to say - so this is scary ... but I ’ m going to try it anyway . And you can do that…...because you are a badass.

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