The Singles Scene Column © September
by Kelly Leary M.S. & Miranda Capparelli, Top Matchmakers
Cuffing Season is Coming. Are You Ready?
“ e best thing to hold onto in life is each other.” ~~Audrey Hepburn By September, something interesting happens in the dating world. e carefree energy of summer begins to fade, calendars ll up, and suddenly being single can feel a little more noticeable. Invitations become plus-one invitations. Family gatherings are on the horizon. Holiday plans are already beginning to take shape. And somewhere between the rst signs of fall and the realization that anksgiving is only a few months away, singles everywhere start wondering: Who am I going to spend the season with? Welcome to what has become known as cung season! e time of year when the desire for companionship tends to move to the front of the line.
paper will be the right t in real life. Sometimes the person who surprises you becomes the person you cannot imagine living without. Sometimes attraction grows as you get to know someone’s personality, values, humor, and character. at does not mean ignoring incompatibility or forcing something that isn’t there, it means being willing to look beyond the instant grati cation of modern dating and give the right connection enough room to reveal itself. September is also a good time to take an honest look at how you have been approaching dating. If you have spent months swiping, matching, chatting, and starting over without nding the relationship you want, doing more of the same is unlikely to produce a di erent result. If you
have been waiting for the right person to simply appear, perhaps it is time to become more proactive. And if you have been limiting yourself to the same type of person, the same places, or the same dating routine, consider the possibility that your next relationship may require a di erent approach. is is where professional matchmaking o ers something that an algorithm cannot: a thoughtful, personal process focused on compatibility, not just convenience. e goal is not to introduce you to as many people as possible. It is to introduce you to people who have the potential to t into the life you actually want.
ere is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting someone special to share the season with. e problem begins when the season starts making the decisions for you. Cung season can create a sense of urgency that encourages people to choose availability over compatibility, settle for a connection that is merely convenient, or rush something that would have been better given time to develop. Aer working with thousands of singles, we’ve learned that the biggest dating mistake isn’t always choosing the wrong person. Sometimes, it’s waiting so long to start looking that every new
connection suddenly feels like it has to become something immediately. Nobody wants to realize in December that their dating strategy was essentially “hope for the best.” at is exactly why September can be such an important month for your dating life. September gives you something December cannot: time without pressure. If you meet someone now, there is an opportunity to actually get to know each other before the holidays arrive. You can have a few dinners, discover what you have in common, learn how you communicate, and see whether the connection continues to grow. You are not trying to nd someone simply to ll a seat at anksgiving dinner, you are giving a relationship the chance to become something real. Attraction may happen quickly, but compatibility, trust, comfort, and genuine connection take time. e best relationships are rarely built because two people were racing toward a deadline. Perhaps that is one of the biggest misconceptions about modern dating: that you should know immediately whether someone is “the one.” A rst date is not a nal decision, it is an introduction. Not every promising connection begins with reworks, and not every person who looks perfect on
So enjoy everything that fall has to o er! Go to the dinners. Attend the parties. Make the weekend plans. Enjoy the football games and the holiday traditions when they arrive. Don’t let the calendar pressure you into choosing someone simply because you want someone. Instead, use this season as an opportunity to be thoughtful about who you want beside you—not just for the holidays, but for everything that comes aer them. Cu ng season may be seasonal, but your relationship shouldn’t be. As September begins, we encourage you to stop waiting for the perfect moment and start creating opportunities to meet the right people. e holidays will arrive whether you are prepared for them or not. Your love life doesn’t have to be le to chance. Call. Start. Love. (561) 630 -9696 (XOXO) If you’re ready to get ahead of the holiday dating rush and take a more intentional approach to finding your match, reserve your spot in the Revolution Dating Social Club today!
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