Spada Law Group - November 2019

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NOVEMBER 2019

Can’t Change It

Letting Go of What We Can’t Control

W e are all guilty of wasting so much emotional energy resisting the things in life that cannot be resisted. hile we’d like to believe we have complete control over our fate, there are some things we simply cannot prepare for that will throw our lives off course. When this happens, what we can control is how we respond to the new circumstances we find ourselves in. Earlier this fall, I attended a seminar in Atlanta where the keynote speaker was a man named Hal Elrod. Elrod is the author of the bestselling book “The Miracle Morning” and the greatest motivational speaker I’ve ever heard. This guy has been on an incredible journey. When he was a young man, Elrod was in a horrific car accident that broke him into pieces. The doctors told him he would never walk again. Understandably, he was depressed and angry, but over time, he realized that while he couldn’t change the fact that he had been in a car accident, he could change how he dealt with it. He was in control of his mindset. His favorite phrase became “Can’t change it.” He vowed never to spend more than five minutes wasting emotional energy on a situation he could not change. Once he came to accept that there were things he couldn’t change, he could focus his energy on moving forward. And forward he moved indeed! I know this sounds corny. Easier said than done, right? But I find Elrod inspiring because he proves that it’s possible to overcome the

things from our past. He doesn’t claim that it’s easy — in fact, his entire philosophy was challenged when years after his horrific car accident, he was diagnosed with a very lethal type of cancer. That was the ultimate test of his mindset. But even in the darkest times, Elrod held onto his mantra of “Can’t change it,” and it brought him to the other side. Being able to have this kind of optimism and acceptance about life is amazing. I related to Elrod’s story because I, too, was diagnosed with cancer. At the time, I certainly languished for much longer than five minutes,

There’s a man I recently represented who truly embodies this idea that we control our mindset.

adamant about standing when the judge walked into the courtroom just like everybody else. “All rise” to him meant “ALL RISE, EVEN ME.” John would grasp his walker and pull himself out of his wheelchair. His spirit was not broken. John emits this sense of gratitude and acceptance of life. I don’t think he realizes what an inspiration he is to me and the people at my firm. My job is to teach my clients about the law, but the truth is that they often teach me about life. I’m proud to work with people like John. He’s a pretty special guy who reminds us all how we can approach life when we have the right mindset. -Len Spada

resisting things I couldn’t change. Eventually, I learned to change my mindset, and it made a huge difference in my life. There’s a man I recently represented who truly embodies this idea that we control our mindset. This man — we’ll call him John — was hit by a car while crossing the street. He sustained an almost-fatal brain injury, has memory problems, and can no longer walk unassisted. If anyone has the right to be mad at the world, it’s John. Instead, whenever he comes into the office, I always hear him laughing and joking with the rest of the team. John always has a smile on his face. He smiles freely and often. When we meet, he’s always interested in how my life is going. When we were in court, on his case he was

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