As a consequence, he has become over- competitive and an over-achiever. He pleases his family, friends, and relatives like a loyal dog. In social settings, he purposely displays his intelligence and achievements in all ways possible. He has no personal and spiritual growth. He lives a life filled with stress and frustration, but doesn’t know why he feels that way. WHAT DOES THE TRUE SELF LOOK LIKE? It starts by embracing the state we’re in right now. It could be our financial/ work status, speech impediments, failures, body shape, relationship status, education level, ethnicity, nationality, etc. I know it can be scary to accept your true self. It may seem overwhelming, so we want to fix it quickly or deny it. But I assure you that accepting your true-self is only a bliss that you can offer yourself. It’s the most comfortable space that we can offer ourselves. Our decisions will be based on our own strengths and weaknesses, and on an understanding of our uniqueness and natural flair. We will feel one with ourselves, peaceful, calm, freed from ego and pretense, and we will see our inner shackles clearly. A true sense of love and compassion arises, for ourselves and for
others. We feel one with the universe, letting go of past experiences. Our relationships get better. Unfortunately, we’re unable to live with this feeling all the time. The question is if it is even possible to be our true self at every given moment? I would say that the answer is no. But the good side is that we can begin by shortening the gap between the projected self and true self, until there comes a time when we’re living our true self almost every day. True self helps us be open to learning, reforming, creating a new and better outlook, and taking actions, which in turn helps us go deeper and live a better, fulfilling, balanced, creative, and loving life. Our tendency to expect all this from other people and situations reduces, and literally diminishes as we keep growing stronger and stronger internally. We will not be driven by our egos, fears, and insecurities. We will not burn our energy in convincing other people that we’re good and worthy of their love. As we keep growing internally, we keep exploring our egos and defenses. The more we get connected to our true self, the easier it is for us to break the pattern and allow compassion for ourselves and for others to arise. We will have our guards down with the people we love. This time we will be connecting to others through our true selves, and not the projected selves. Our true selves are always clear about ourselves and others, and do not get carried away by
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