Sevenish Law - June 2020

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Fierce Protectors of the Injured

FATHERHOOD THROUGH HARDSHIP Sevenish’s Reflection on a Tough Upbringing

“‘I will frown on you no longer, for I am faithful,’ declares the Lord, ‘I will not be angry forever.’”

–Jeremiah 3:12b

Richard Sevenish adopted me. I never knew he was my stepdad until he told me when I was in my teens. At first, I was crushed. But once it all sunk in, I realized that in his eyes, there wasn’t a difference between me and my brothers and sisters. Life dealt him a tough deck of cards; it takes a lot of strength to support nine kids with a factory worker’s paycheck. He was very smart and could’ve done bigger things in his life, but for him, his responsibility was to raise and support us as best he could. That’s what he did. It wasn’t perfect; he was hard on me, my mom, and my family. But he set a fire beneath me that propelled my career and attitude forward in life. While I was playing football in high school, my dad pulled me aside after watching one of my games. To avoid getting tackled, I used to dodge men, and to that my dad said, “Son, don’t just shimmy your hips away from the boys. Run straight through those sons of guns.” He was a tough, aggressive guy! Through him, I picked up that type of determination for life. That ferocious determination has been doing me well for a long time. By the time you receive this newsletter in June, I must ask: How’s it looking lately? At the time of

writing, the stay-at-home orders have been in place for a few weeks. We’ve made many changes to work remotely, and while it’s going smoothly now, it’s hard to predict what’s going to happen next. It reminds me that every inch of victory can feel like it comes with a mile of struggle. Despite the significant amount of good that my father’s done, when I think about a great challenge in my life, it was forgiving my father. My father and I disagreed on a lot, and whenever we fought, he was the only winner — after all, I was a kid. It took many, many years to understand that he saw special skills inside me before I knew them myself. It continues to the present day in how intensely I trained police officers at the police academy and karate students at my dojos and how fiercely I represent injured clients or protect my family at large. The best things in life just aren’t always easy to do. I think a life of forgiveness — while remembering the wrongdoings and standing up for yourself and others — is one of the best things you can do for yourself to enjoy life to the fullest. During my police or martial arts training,

I taught people to adapt to scenarios without thinking. You might expect to follow plan A in a given scenario. But in a dynamic world, where things aren’t static, you end up with plans B, C, and D instead of A. It might take more work than if you had just done plan A, but that’s what it takes sometimes. Adapting means thinking and running on your feet at the same time. It’s actually difficult for us to predict what it feels like to forgive someone. It takes adaptation in scary circumstances, and sometimes, people don’t make it very easy. After I forgave my dad, I felt a lot more peace with my life. I’m truly grateful for his influence on my life, and I’ll never forget the mistakes we both made so I don’t repeat them. Being a father or a son never gets easier, but we can still enjoy the best things in life, no matter how hard it gets. Look out for each other, love and forgive, and have a happy Father’s Day, everyone.

–Randall “Randy” Sevenish

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