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Dear Sober Queens,
“For months, the President and senior club members had visited our home to check on Dad's progress, paid his medical bills and on more than one occasion brought my mother gifts of flowers or cake. In his storytelling, he taught me from a very young age that you learn the measure of people when your back is against the wall. I think in many ways he saw it as the universe giving people the opportunity to choose to step into the equation. Or not.
“I had a friend, Frances who I met when I first got sober. We bonded instantly and I counted on seeing her, because like me, she really struggled to give up drinking, but we were doing it. We lost Frances yesterday and I wish I had taken the time to tell her how much she meant to me.”
To see you, or not. To hear you, or not.
-Tweeted and shared with Permission - My friend Ed December 2021
I read Ed's words about his friend and my heart sank to my toes, not just for the lovely Frances but also for my good friend Ed. I could almost taste the regret in his words as the slow steady realisation hit him that the lovely Frances will not hear him say 'You mean the world to me.' It's something you know. People on our journey. Particularly those who help us. And they very often are the very people NOBODY knows about. Maybe her name is Francis…. On this Tuesday, I would like to take this early morning moment to say thank you to you as a community for tuning in daily, for engaging in your truths, and for trusting me and Team Hola Sober in this sober space of ours. I would urge you to stop and think for a minute and give thanks to those on your journey who have made it easier, say hello to those that were kind to you in the early days, and take a moment to thank yourself for finding the wherewith-all to dig yourself out of the savage hole that is addiction. I hope you wake gently and reflect for a moment and may you be filled with the strength of spirit of all the beautiful Frances's in the world who have gone on high.
“ Keep the ones who heard you when you never said a word. Keep the ones who get you, really get you. Keep those who understand this is OUR thing, will always be OUR thing and this is the THING we do so that it is never our thing AGAIN. Keep THAT lady on your meeting as she never fails to haul her sober ass across hot coals if it means sharing her truth so that others can learn. She is a KEEPER. Accept these are your people. Today, tell them that." -Me- I grew up with a Dad who had a natural ability to call out those who had helped him ensuring he was a man who gave credit where credit was due. One of the many stories he told was the one in which he sustained multiple fractures to his leg whilst playing rugby for an opposing club who were a man down for a Sunday fixture. It was the late 1960's and the amateur era of rugby where being a man down was quite common as they were working men with jobs and families. I grew up knowing that although this club was not 'our' family club we loved them none the less.
Lots of Love,
Susan xxx
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