BELLY LAUGHS
A Field Guide to New-Parent Conversations By Amanda Miller
I f you’re not a parent yet, talking to a new parent can feel like trying to understand a foreign language. There are words you recognize but don’t fully understand in the context in which you now hear them. Luckily, this field guide has been documented to help you get one step closer to understanding the rapidly evolving dialect of the modern new parent. Species: Homo parentus (The Modern Parent) Habitat: Pediatrician offices, grocery stores, coffee shop drive-thrus, homes, and sometimes, the floor (getting up can be hard once you’re down there) Diet: Any food that can be held or eaten with one hand Language: See notes below Field Note #1 Wake Window The brief period of time in which a baby is awake between naps. Researcher’s notes: This window should not be confused with something one can willingly open and close. When it happens, it happens. Parents monitor these wake periods with the precision of someone landing a plane.
Field Note #2 Contact Nap A nap in which the baby sleeps while physically touching a parent. Researcher’s notes: It may sound like a contact sport, and while it is a sport in its own right, it is one in which the parent uses every ounce of strength to remain completely still. The parent may need to shower, eat, use the bathroom, or simply move a limb that has gone numb, but none of that matters. The baby is finally asleep, and waking the baby is not an option. Field Note #3 Cluster Feeding When a baby wants to eat repeatedly over a period of time. Researcher’s notes: Context clues might lead one to believe this term refers to a group of people enjoying a meal together. Unfortunately, it describes a repet- itive process that can seriously test a new parent’s patience…and lead to increased coffee consumption. See “Habitat” and “Diet” above.
Field Note #4 Blowout A diaper failure of catastrophic proportions.
Researcher’s notes: In order to fully understand the magnitude of this event, one must experience it first- hand. When it happens, parents share a look of shock, disgust, and silent understanding. They may then send you off with the three-finger salute of respect, admiration, and solidarity made famous by Katniss Everdeen in The Hunger Games . Survival Tip If you’re having a conversation with a new parent and you’re unsure how to respond, simply remind them that they’re doing a great job. This is almost always the perfect response, and they probably need to hear it anyway. And when the wake windows go awry, the cluster feedings seem endless, and the day ends with a diaper blowout of epic proportions, remember: You’ve got this. You’re doing a great job.
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