Tell me how you are editing, organizing and containing your sobriety. The actual state of being sober, for me, has accomplished what I shall now refer to as the J-Edit. The clarity, the focus, and the pride that keeps that engine going has resulted in an easy and natural cleansing and organization of my life, filled only with people, places, and things that fit my "new narrative". Quite simply, the rule of thumb is that I don't have time for bullshit anymore. What I do have time for is renovating my life into a sanctuary for me, and for my husband as I care for him and be a cheerleader for him (his desire for unwavering positivity from me is very hard sometimes...but less so because I don't have the cry-inducing rocket fuel in me). I edit, organize, and hold close and dear those family and friends, those places that bring us joy comfort (our local beach or park), and those things (Ummm, like good dark chocolate- -very good for you!!!!). Before becoming sober, I wouldn't have had the CHUTZPAH (look it up :-) to do any of it...So far, so good. -J.M. Tara 2022 What do you do if you have a craving? What is your top ti p to create the PLEDGE 100 list of solutions? I’m usually thirsty when I get a craving so I test that first. I get a large glass filled with ice ( it had to have ice) and then top it up with fizzy water and either fresh lime juice or lime cordial. It usually does the trick and if I’ve ever given into a craving and thought about it afterward I have gone straight to the booze without the soft drink first. If I’m still twitchy I will have a slice of cake or some chocolate. I will also go and sit on my bed with a book from time to time - so removing myself from anything stressful and cozying up. On a previous occasion of giving up, I went to bed very early on a couple of nights with the excuse of a headache - I was technically hiding from everyone and everything but it worked. I’ve not had to use that this time but I would if I needed to. -A. S. Tara 2022
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