ReachOutIT March 2019

March 2019

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Why Finding a Work-Life Balance

Is a Bad Idea

Whenever I hear the phrase, “perfecting a work-life balance,” I think of how wrong and stupid that idea is. In my podcast, I talk about this subject in an episode titled, “Balance Is B.S.” The idea of trying to force your work and home life into separate states of being is near impossible because both of them make up who you are. Over the past year my schedule was absolutely crazy. I had to schedule time to travel all across the country to speak at colleges and corporations, and of course I also wanted time to spend with my family. At the beginning of last summer I found myself trying to figure out where I was going to be and for how long so that I could ensure I had time with my wife and children before, between, and after trips. My wife and I are a team, and I didn’t want to be an absent father or husband for even a moment.

school a few days early and spent a few days in Florida. We had a great time, but far sooner than we would have liked, we were back home and I was preparing to travel again. When my kids found out, they asked me, “You’re going away again?” and I had to say, “Of course.” There were a lot of people who wanted time with me, but I still didn’t want to leave my family behind. It just didn’t seem fair. Forcing things into the “balanced” life perspective is a stupid thing to do. It stresses you out far more than it should when there’s an easier solution right in front of you. I’ve done my best to create a close relationship with my kids by including them in the things I do while I’m at home. When I run errands, even if it's simply going to the grocery store to pick up milk, I take one or all of them with me. We’ll get into the car, and even if it’s a store they hate we still end up having a great time together. When my kids asked if I was leaving again, I thought about this activity, and it hit me: Why don’t I just bring them along? When I’m at home, I spend so much energy trying to be home , and I do the exact same when I’m away. It never feels like enough. With this solution, I realized that it would be far easier to integrate my two lives by taking my wife and my kids with me, one at a time, whenever I had the opportunity.

them as well. On a trip to Florida, my wife came up with a brand-new book idea while surrounded by high- caliber people who encouraged her. My daughter was offered a chance to have her very own TV segment on whatever she wanted, and since she loves to make cakes, decided she would enjoy teaching people how to bake. My son was offered to do a segment on bullying, which is something he hates and actively discourages. Rather than trying so desperately to find the mythical “balance” everyone else seeks, look for a way to integrate your two worlds. When you try to balance it out, you’ll knock your head against the wall — no matter where you are, you’ll constantly think you should be somewhere else. It's important while you’re traveling to keep everyone as involved as possible, especially those who are important to you. If you have the opportunity to bring family with you to work or on your travels, take it.

A few days before the school term ended, we took the kids out of

Rather than trying so desperately to find the mythical 'balance' everyone else seeks, look for a way to integrate your two worlds.

Having my family with me on my trips has helped me a lot, and it's helped


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