Should you mention suicide to them? What if they overhear adults talking? How honest should I be? Questions like that are asked by parents all the time. Experts advise to use simple language and avoid euphemisms like “went to sleep.” Make sure to reassure children that they are safe, and encourage questions. Ages 7–10 Kids this age may hear about suicide at school, on YouTube, or from classmates. Now, parents might have more questions like: What if my child hears about suicide at school? How much detail should I give? Can talking about suicide plant the idea? Experts say that talking about suicide does not increase suicide thoughts, and that it’s important to correct misinformation. Ask them what they’ve already heard about the topic and go from there. Ages 11–13 (Tweens) What if my child mentions self-harm? How do I know if they’re joking? When should I worry? At this stage, parents should familiarize themselves with the warning signs and ways to help emotional regulation. Check online influences and peer pressure, but make sure
your child knows they are loved and can receive help.
How have you been feeling lately? I’ve noticed you’ve been down; can you tell me more about that? It seems like you’ve been sad more often. Did something happen at school? Sometimes when people are feeling the way you are, they think about suicide— have you ever had those thoughts before? What not to say: “You have nothing to be sad about.” “Other kids have it worse.” “You’re just looking for attention.” “Don’t be dramatic.” Instead, say: “I’m glad you told me.” “I’m here with you.” “We’re going to figure this out together.” Another great step is to create a safety plan. After expressing thoughts of suicide, creating a plan with your child for days they’re having suicidal thoughts or feeling sad and lonely can be important. Take practical safety measures like removing access to guns, conducting room checks, and leaving the door cracked. Llean into the things that they love or even avoid things that aren’t helpful. In emergencies, call 911 or the 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
Ages 14–18 (Teens) Parents of teens know that emotions are complicated and understanding them can be even more difficult. Questions like, “Should I ask directly if they’re thinking about suicide?” or “What if they say yes?” can float around. Here, some experts recommend asking directly and calmly. Listen without judgement. Take every mention seriously and seek professional help immediately if needed. COLLEGE AGE/YOUNG ADULTS Your child has now probably moved out of the house at this stage—how can you tell if they’re struggling? How often should you check in? What if they stop responding? Show interest and be supportive. Be direct, and ask them if they are considering suicide or have a plan. Don’t be judgmental, give advice, or try to talk them out of suicide (and don’t swear to secrecy). WHAT TO DO NOW? Say you’ve approached your child directly about where they are at mentally. You’ve taken an important first step! Here are some questions to ask your child:
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