Talking it Over by Dr. Clyde M. Narramore
Dr. Narramore, graduate of Columbia University, New York City, is a psychologist and Consultant in Research and Guidance with one o f the largest school systems in the United States
came to money—they all thought it grew on trees. This problem has not become a big one in our family, but since we have only been married a short time, I am afraid that it might de velop into one. A. Many husbands and wives are divided on the question of tithing. Of course you should tithe. This is your Christian privilege and re sponsibility. But I think it is also important that you work this prob lem out in an agreeable way. Undoubtedly your husband’s re luctance to tithe stems from the fact that he is unsaved, or perhaps an immature Christian. As he comes to trust completely in the Lord he will want to tithe. So be patient with him. It is a matter of devotion to Christ. If you concen trate on helping him spiritually, the tithing will take care of itself. Furthermore, your husband’s hesitancy in tithing may be a re flection of his worries over finances. He may feel that your family’s in come is insufficient to meet your needs. If this is true, you can help him by carefully living within your budget and by encouraging him to talk fr e e ly about financial “ pinches.” Husbands who are hav ing financial troubles want some understanding and sympathy from their wives. If he finds that you are sympathetic and are willing to sacrifice to live within your means, he will be much more likely to want to tithe. You are young newlyweds. Take a long look—not a short one. It is much better for you to be prayer fully patient and win your husband over to tithing than it is for you to act in an immature fashion, force the issue and cause a wall to rise up between you. Your God is not small. Trust Him; commit the problem to Him and He will faithfully answer your prayer!
progress, even though it is not at the same speed as other children.” I am sure that if you explain this in a kindly way, the parents will not only accept it — they will come to appreciate your objective obser vation and reporting. Profession Q. As a Christian, what are my chances of getting employed if I be come a psychologist? What are the requirements? A. I know of many fine positions that are open for bom-again psy chologists, especially in our public schools. And I think that the school psychologist is in one of the greatest mission fields of the world. There you work with students, with the faculty and with parents. What more could you ask for? Opportunities to witness for Christ are many. And a psychologist stands in a strategic position — one of advising people. As for requirements, you will need a college education with as much work in psychology and edu cation as possible. Secondly, you will need at least one or two years of teaching experience (teaching regular subjects in the classroom). Then you will need a master’s de gree in school psychology. Such a degree will require about two full years of work. If you would like to have more information along this line, you can find it in my new book entitled Young Only Once. You will find it at all Christian bookstores. When you get the book, tarn to the chap ter entitled “Your Life’s Work.” Tithing Q. I feel that we should tithe our income but my husband says that “we can’t give all our money away.” I have pointed out to him that God will bless us if we do tithe. One day he said that the men where he works had talked about it and that all of them had said their wives were just the same when it
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The Truth About Low Intelligence Q. I am a fourth grade teacher. During the year I have a number of conferences with the parents of children in my class. Since there are always a few children in every class who have low intelligence, I find myself having to explain this to their parents. Would you please give some sug gestions on how to do this and yet tell the truth. When discussing low intelligence it is much easier to avoid telling the truth. A. In talking with parents of dull normal children I have found that they are usually ready to accept the truth if it is presented in a kindly manner. If there is a boy in your class who has low intelligence as judged by his daily performance and also by standardized intelligence tests, I would suggest you say something like this to his parents: “ It is a joy to work with John especially since he seems to find school work rather difficult. He usually has to go a little slower than the average child in the room. But as a teacher it is always a challenge to help children who have to work at a slower pace.” As the conversation continues, you might add something like this: “As you know I have 35 children in my classroom and throughout the day I naturally compare them with each other. From my observa tions and also according to tests which have been given, I am sure that Johnny finds it difficult to grasp new ideas. However, as I gear work to his own level he makes
EDITOR'S NOTE: Dr. Narramore will be one of the featured speakers during BIOLA week at Mt. Hermon, California, this summer.
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