Chapter 13. Embrace the Unknown
yourself no other option but to get better . Focus on how you are going to feel or look when you beat the disease and you have recov- ered. Put pictures up around the house of when you looked your best and visualize the day you will be looking that way again. What you focus on is what you are. Giving up, feeling like a victim, or wasting time on “poor me” takes away energy that must be focused
on the optimal outcome. Learn all you can about your situation, figure out the best result for you, take action, and fight it all the way.
What you focus on is what you are.
Unexpected change can be terrifying. In the previous chapter, we talked about change you could see coming, like your company down- sizing. Unexpected change is getting fired for no apparent reason. Instead of seeing your relationship taking a bad turn, your spouse comes home one night and wants a divorce. Or maybe you find that a friend or business partner took advantage of you, and it devastates your finances or trust. All changes can be devastating, even more so when they are unexpected and maybe even life-threatening. In most cases, we overanalyze the situation and ask ourselves the wrong questions, like “How could this happen to me?” “Why did this happen to me?” and “Who is to blame?" We waste energy on worry instead of using it to find a solution.
“What’s the use of worry? What good does it do? Does it add a single thing to our life? Of course not. And if worry can’t do such things as that, why worry over bigger things?” —Corinthians
Don’t waste time trying to figure out why this happened to you, or who is to blame, or why you didn’t deserve this. You proba- bly didn’t deserve it, but the fact is change is still going to happen. What if as soon as unexpected change happened, you imme- diately asked yourself these powerful, solution-oriented questions?
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