they have any additional accommodations available or if they would be willing to make simple changes during the party like lowering music, turning off flashing lights, and having a quiet room available. Advocating is not being abrasive and it never hurts to ask. Many venues will go the extra mile to make their party families happy (within reason!). Planning in advance is key to sensory success at a venue party. Bringing sensory tools like noise-cancelling headphones, hand fidgets, Chewelry, (chewable silicone jewelry oral sensory seekers use to self-regulate), weighted toys or lap pads, compression vests, and other comfort items your child benefits from (which others can try out too!) is a great way to be prepared. Biel reminds parents that “Taking breaks can be a key strategy. If your child seems to be getting overwhelmed, sometimes going for a quick walk around the block or even down the hall can help your child reset their bodies and brains.”
When a Sensory-Friendly Party Goes Wrong
This style of party is so much more than the buzzword “sensory friendly.” Of course, it’s helpful to have a list of ways to make a party more pleasant for a neurodivergent child, but maybe the most important part of being sensory friendly is the energy being placed towards compassion, patience, and above all, kindness. Because sometimes the excitement, lack of routine, or even the sights, sounds, and smells of a party are just too much. And guess what? That. Is. Okay. Whether it is that milestone first attempt at a party, or simply a party that didn’t work out for the party family… life happens, and trying is brave! Biel adds that “There is obviously no ‘law’ that requires a child to have a birthday party, but most kids do love being celebrated on their special day. If your child struggles with parties, keep it small and short. It doesn’t have to be the entire class or the entire day.” Having guests who go with the flow, give grace and love, and are really present is the best gift a neurodivergent family could get! Truly, those who show up in this fashion are so much more than “party guests;” they are that village that everyone talks about. While waving the white flag may happen from time to time over the years, finding ways to celebrate the birthday child in a way that works for them is what matters most. It may not look conventional as the years go by, but… who cares? (And if someone does care, perhaps that says more about them?) Every child is worthy of a party on their birthday! And a sensory-friendly party can be just as fun and special!
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