Please enjoy the sober motivation and inspiration, beauty, and fashion this month!
hola sober For the adventurous sober soul
MOTIVATION INSPIRATION
Jennifer Bridgman Sophie Pelham-Burn Janey Lee Grace Beth M.T. AB Touchstones
hola sober Susan Christina Creamer Susan Christina Creamer Val (Australia) Gee E. Colette Louise Jennifer Bridgman Linda McGrath-Redmond Winifred Trehy Sophie Pelham-Burn Beth MT Lynn Wood Aggie Editor + Publisher Creative Director Assistant Editor Mental Health Columnist Tarot Columnist Columnist Columnist Columnist Nutritionist Columnist Columnist Columnist Columnist
Wellness Columnist Wellness Columnist Columnist Contributor Hola Sober Office Dog Hola Sober Assistant Senior Tea Maker Senior Mood Booste rs Proof Readers Contributing Colour Colour Writer Contributing Colour Daily Cheerleaders
Janey Lee Grace Lisa Hamil Agnes O Connell Martha Mary Iris Lisa Wilde Jordi V. Max, Noah + Samuel Susan + Lisa W. + Agnes Lisa Wilde Agnes Mary Irving Hola Sober Sisters Globally Deb, Judith, Gee + Colette
There is NO REVENUE generated by advertisers as they support the sober community in a variety of ways. All columnists VOLUNTEER their precious time and talent to ensure your inbox is filled with colour, motivation, inspiration, and education. Hola Sober is an epic example of high-impact volunteering in the sober space and is led by my Madrid family's social impact investment in time, money, and tea.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
CONTENTS
REGULAR FEATURES
Susan's Welcome Note
05
Team Picks
14
Beauty
20
Fashion
31
Hola Sober Kitchen
113
P.101 SOBER HOLIDAYS IN THAILAND
P. 113 HOLA SOBER KITCHEN
SOBER ROCK STARS
48
Jennifer Bridgman
P. 72 THE POWER OF TOUCH WITH ANNETTE BOWEN
52
Beth MT
59
Janey Lee Grace
56
Sophie Pelham-Burn
99
Dear Gee
134
Tarot Queen Colette
P. 52 JOIN BETH M.T. WITH CLARITY (ADHD DIAGNOSIS)
INSPIRATION
65
IThis Is Jean
Hola Sober Village Voices
92
Hola Sober Art
128
Sculpture with Carol Davies
129
P.56 WE NEED TO TALK ABOUT BLOOD SUGAR MONITORING
P 48 JENNIFER BRIDGMAN WILDCHILD .
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
i YOU ARE VERY WELCOME
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
Editor's note
Dear Sober Queens,
It's always a challenge to keep these editorial notes concise when there's so much to cover in each issue of the magazine! First and foremost, I want to express my gratitude for your continued support of Hola Sober. My goal remains to contribute positively to this space without making it about financial transactions. It's disheartening to see that everything related to recovery comes with a price tag these days. While traditional recovery methods weren't a perfect fit for me, I wholeheartedly embrace the concept of service and volunteering. This magazine allows me to create content on my terms, free from editorial interference from advertisers, as there are no commercial pages in this passion project. I'm incredibly grateful for the talented individuals who contribute to each edition, including Jennifer Bridgman, Sophie Pelham-Burn, Janey Lee Grace, and Beth MT. Special thanks to Colette, the Tarot Queen, for her consistent card readings. Putting this magazine together from my home office is a labour of love for the sober community, and I hope you find joy in this edition. Explore our curated selection of fashion- forward trends and beauty tips, designed to elevate your style and enhance your natural radiance in sobriety. Immerse yourself in the heartfelt stories of courage and resilience shared by our community, as we embrace the power of sobriety to shape our lives with purpose and authenticity. From motivational insights to practical advice, let our pages inspire you to embrace each moment with joy and gratitude.
Lots of love,
Susan Christina Creamer EDITOR + PUBLISHER Susan Christina Creamer
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
before you
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
THE PLEDGE Today we dare not forget that we are the heirs of that first revolution; let the word go forth that the torch has been passed to a new generation of women. Let all who hear us speak know we will bear any burden to support our Hola Sober sisters on this journey. To all sisters on high, know we are here fighting a new fight as a new set of revolutionaries who will oppose all who stand in our path, to assure the survival and the success of our sobriety, at our very core this much we pledge.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
"SOMETIMES LATER BECOMES NEVER. DO IT NOW."
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
SOBER NOTES
SOBER MOOD
TO DO FOR SOBRIETY
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
SOBER and rocking it
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
DAVINA
In a candid interview with Good Housekeeping, Davina McCall opened up about her sobriety, revealing that she had her last alcoholic beverage over 30 years ago. In the issue due to hit shelves in February, the former Big Brother host opened up about her 'all or nothing' attitude which led to her sobriety and giving up all sugar after her sister Caroline died of lung cancer in 2012. I haven't had a drink in 33 years,' she told the magazine. 'I've spent my life being quite rigid with myself.'
READ FULL ARTICLE HERE
LEGEND
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
AF and rocking it
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
SHAKIRA
Shakira completely abstains from alcohol, doesn’t smoke, and doesn’t drink caffeine. She experienced a tragic loss with the death of her brother William Mebarak whom a drunk driver killed. And although the singer was only two years old when the tragic event occurred, and she is still survived by eight other siblings, the hole left by William is irreparable.
READ FULL ARTICLE HERE
LEGEND
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
March-April 2024 Hola Sober
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
SUSAN'S PICK
I have tried a million different cleaning products in my lifetime and I hate ‘that’ smell that hangs in the air of chemicals. I recently discovered Purdy & Figg an eco-friendly brand. Back in 2018, best friends Purdy Rubin and Charlotte Figg decided to make cleaning products they'd feel good using – both for themselves and for the environment. I am OBSESSED with this and the divine smell around my home. I cannot describe to you how wonderful it feels to walk into my kitchen after it has had the Purdy & Figg treatment because it smells of citrus freshness AND it cleans beautifully. This is NOT a paid advertisement - I am simply sharing the joy of this product which is a game-changer in our home.
SHOP NOW ➤
GEE'S PICK I have two daughters with hair that is a life-force all of its own (thanks to their Dad, Paul who is Afro-Caribbean) My life is spent trying to tame hair and this SMOOTH STICK is mind blowing and a real game-changer in the world of hair in my life! The award-winning Smooth Stick has been one of the most nifty Irish inventions of late by it’s Founder Áine Kennedy I cannot tell you how this smooths down those maddingly stray hairs that keep sticking up. It is just fabulous!!
SHOP NOW ➤
COLETTE'S PICK
I started exercising regularly in early 2023 and my daughter bought me sneakers for walking and running around. I now have a real love of comfortable sneakers that allow me be my quirky self. Barbara Bennett is a talented Graphic Designer who has honed in on a unique product that's proving hugely popular: hand- painted shoe customisation. Barbara adds eye-catching and bold prints to your favourite shoe brands such as Nike Air Force, Nike Cortez, and loafers. She also sells DIY kits and everything about this brand and young lady inspires me!
SHOP NOW ➤
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
I have a lot of travel ahead this year and I am also going to the Madrid Gathering in September and have bought this in advance of my travels. The Latitude Travel Lanyard from FAHERTY made from lightweight, durable, and water-resistant recycled nylon has been a real find for me this season. It keeps all my essentials close and organized with thoughtful pocket details which means I am not stressed wondering where my things are!!! This one is a must for staying chill on those major getaways. LISA W. P I C K SHOP NOW ➤
I AGNES’S PICK I wanted to buy something special for a friend who had lost a loved one and I found it here with this beautiful little necklace. I loved it so much, I got one for my self as well!! LittleLight creates beautiful jewellery inspired by the ups and downs of life. The brand came about after founder Ceilí Flood tragcially lost her brother-in-law due to suicide, and wanted to do something special in his honour. Each piece is named after an emotion or phase in life, be it hope, grief, new beginnings or self-love. I simply adore the ethos behind this brand and wish to support it.
SHOP NOW ➤
LINDA’S PICK I received this as a gift and I'm absolutely delighted with it. It's not only affordable but also a fantastic addition to my sleep routine in sobriety. The Apothecary Sleep gift set is designed to create the perfect atmosphere for a peaceful night's rest. It features a thoughtfully curated assortment of soothing bath and body products, including body wash, hand cream, pillow mist, body butter, pulse point oil, and a votive candle. Each item is infused with a blend of essential oils such as lavender, eucalyptus, vetiver, and jasmine, renowned for their calming and relaxing properties. Additionally, the set includes a luxurious silk eye mask and is beautifully presented in a reusable woven bag, making it both practical and elegant.
SHOP NOW ➤
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
WINNIE T.
P I C K
August Night is a brand specializing in handbags and accessories that blend luxury with contemporary flair. Founded by Caoimhe Grant, who honed her craft while working for John Rocha, the brand draws inspiration from the realms of literature and music. Grant's designs feature unique twists, knots, and lavish bows that add an elevated touch to any ensemble. While my adult children may find it a bit extravagant, I adore it. After all, life is too short not to indulge in things that bring us happiness. As part of my sober journey, I've chosen to invest in items that bring me joy, rather than spending my money on alcohol = win-win.
SHOP NOW ➤
I TEAM PICK Who doesn’t love a good earring and we are BIG fans of the Danish brand, SKAGEN. These Kariana Rose Gold-Tone Threader Earrings are a beautiful piece for day or night and can be worn with any outfit! Skagen embraced Danish minimalism, creating slim styles and color Today, timelessness is at the forefront of their design process, creating pieces to last a lifetime — with people and the planet in mind. The brand recognizes the significance of our partnerships, suppliers, and material use and celebrates selections — solar movement and upcycled/recycled materials. You will be disappointed with these timeless classics. We all LOVE them and our sober selves celebrate all things that sustainable and edgy.
SHOP NOW ➤
Susan gave me the gift of a candle from Madrid from this shop-company that has been around for over a century making ‘emotions via candles’ which I love and the smell of this was beautiful! I light it each morning as a treat to set my sober intention for the day and it sets the tone perfectly. Hand poured in Valencia, Spain since 1899 they are divine. My idea of a good afternoon is the aroma of Cereria Mollá 1899 and a good book! AGGIE PICK
SHOP NOW ➤
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
W I N N I E ’ S
F I N D S
Deep enough to roast a chicken, and shallow enough to flip an egg, the Always Pan 2.0 is the gold standard for versatility, doing the job of ten pieces of traditional cookware. I love this cook-wear. Think about it ladies!
SHOP NOW ➤
PORTABLE CLOTHES STEAMER
Believe me when I say a portable steamer will be such a game-changer in your life. You'll never have to deal with wrinkly clothes ever again at home or abroad. Sometimes I need a shirt and dont’ want to lug out the ironing board and iron and a friend recommended this. To be honest, I think it is my HERO product of the year! Already! It’s wonderful.
SHOP NOW ➤
iWALK Small Portable Charger, Pink
When out walking friends or family, I regularly forget to charge my phone...enter stage left with this wonderful little compact portable charger. In pink of course. It has saved my ass on work calls, more than once lately! This compact charger enables you to charge your phone on the move! Its lightweight design allows you to continue texting and making calls while your device is charging. It conveniently fits in a purse or pants pocket for easy portability.
SHOP NOW ➤
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
BASQUE CHICA’S
F I N D S
Cariuma -sustainable footwear with a purpose Known for comfort and style, you won’t see these on everyone . Salvas Sneaker
SHOP NOW ➤
Ilia Super Serum Skin Tint SPF 4 A n award-winning serum that leaves skin feeling fresh and moisturized, with light coverage and spf protection
SHOP NOW ➤
Bobbie Brown Vitamin Enriched Face base Delicious smell and oh so generous with the moisturize, whether worn under makeup or alone SHOP NOW ➤
Burberry Goddess cologne A beautifully feminine scent sure to elicit lots of compliments .
SHOP NOW ➤
PILLOW TALK LIPSTICK PILLOW TA LK O The ICONIC matte nude-pink lipstick for giving your pout the PILLOW TALK EFFECT!
SHOP NOW ➤
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
BEAUTY HOLA SOBER HOT PRODUCTS FASHION &
KOREAN FACEMASKS TEAM’S FAVOURITE BEAUTY PRODUCTS READERS SUGGESTIONS
LILAC LIPS LILAC LIDS REVLON LIPSTICK
SPRING 2024
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
FACE MASKS DO THEY
REALLY WORK?
Supplementing your skincare regimen with face masks effectively targets a range of skin concerns like hyperpigmentation, dark spots, and loss of firmness. Regular use of face masks offers numerous advantages: 1. Purification : Eliminates dead skin cells, excess oil, and impurities, promoting a deep cleanse and reducing pore size. 2. Wrinkle Reduction: Diminishes signs of aging like wrinkles and crow's feet, as well as skin discoloration, by delivering vital nutrients to the skin, resulting in a softer and smoother texture. 3. Hydration : Boosts the skin's moisture retention capabilities, leading to increased softness and enhanced elasticity. With consistent use, skin appears smoother and more supple. 4 . Addressing Skin Conditions: Assists in managing various skin concerns including oily skin, acne, hyperpigmentation, and sunburn. 5. Relaxation: Induces a sense of relaxation, particularly after a long day, allowing the skin to rejuvenate and enhance its natural elasticity.
Here is what I believe very strongly in sobriety, incorporating face masks into our skincare regimen every week can provide numerous benefits. Regular use helps to deeply cleanse the skin, reduce the appearance of wrinkles, hydrate and nourish the skin, address specific skin concerns, and promote relaxation. By making face masks a consistent part of our skincare routine, we can maintain healthier, more radiant- looking skin over time. Love Lisa W.
HOLA SOBER MADRID
WHY I LOVE THE KOREAN FACE MASK Korean face masks have taken the skincare world by storm over the past few years, offering a wide range of benefits for the skin. These masks come in various forms, including sheet masks, clay masks, and gel masks, each designed to address specific skincare concerns. One of the key features of Korean face masksis their innovative formulations, often infused with potent ingredients like hyaluronic acid, snail mucin, and niacinamide. These ingredients work together to hydrate, brighten, and rejuvenate the skin, leaving it looking and feeling refreshed. Sheet masks, in particular, are a popular choice for their convenience and effectiveness. Made from soft, thin sheets soaked in serum, they adhere to the contours of the face, delivering a concentrated dose of skincare ingredients. Clay masks are ideal for deep cleansing and purifying the pores, while gel masks provide cooling and soothing effects, making them perfect for sensitive or irritated skin. Whether you're looking to hydrate, brighten, or clarify your skin, Korean face masks offer a luxurious and effective solution for achieving a radiant complexion. Incorporating these masks into your skincare routine can help you achieve healthy, glowing skin that's sure to turn heads. Love Lisa W.
HOLA SOBER MADRID
KOREAN FACE MASK TOP PICKS
Company Newsletter
HOLA SOBER MADRID
LIPSTICK COLLECTION - CHOOSE YOUR FAVORITE COLOR -
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
I TEAM FAVOURITES THIS SEASON
Light powder highlighter by Loreal Paris. This highlighter has a gentle formula that makes it easy to apply on the skin. Add an extra shine to your look with this Loreal Paris powder highlighter. SHOP NOW ➤ From Paradise
Pestle + Mortar offers a luxurious body scrub and body butter duo enriched with ceramides and infused with an uplifting citrus scent. Who amongst us does not love a decent body scrub formulation?
SHOP NOW ➤
I Every woman either via hormones or dehydration in early sobriety could do with a boost to create that amazing sober hair we find ourselves in the stewardship of. This shampoo : Leaves hair hydrated and refreshed, silky smooth, and looking super healthy. Hops and nettle extracts help create bounce and volume. Babassu oil, matcha green tea and carrageen moss extract help give a lightweight, silky finish. Formerly known as SUPER NATURAL SHAMPOO. PARADOX offers VOLUME SHAMPOO 250ML Perfect for all hair types, this 91% natural shampoo cleans, strengthens + adds volume.
SHOP NOW ➤
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
I TEAM FAVOURITES THIS SEASON
MAX FACTOR MASCARA Who doesn't love a decent mascara and we don't have to spend a fortune to have a super effect. Max Factor’s new False Lash Effect XXL Mascara (Dhs75, noon.com) is flying off the shelves across Europe and the USA as word gets out that this keenly priced mascara does the trick of those three times the price. This smudge-proof and clump-free mascara let us lengthen our lashes by up to 70% *and* add mega fullness . SHOP HERE ➤
The French beauty brand, La Bouche Rouge, with its ingredients and its eco-conscious mission to make the world a more beautiful place always get my attention. Our brows have never looked better thanks to their Eyebrow Serum gel (Dhs164, laboucherogueparis.com). Not only is it formulated with pistachio oil to simulate eyebrow hair growth and anti-aging green caviar extract, but it also expertly tames and sets our brows. It is a recycable glass bottle and the applicator wand is free of microplastic. What’s better than that? SHOP HERE ➤ LA BOUCHE ROUGE EYEBROW SERUM GEL
I
Proudly 100% vegan and cruelty-free, Pacifica continues to innovate with the Reusable Masks Undereye. Coming in a cute tin that is quintessentially Pacifica, these reusable eye masks work with your current serum lineup and on their own. Easy to apply (and wash afterward), these cloud-covered masks boost hydration and stay tight to the skin so you can stick ‘em on and carry on. PACIFICA REUSABLE MASKS UNDEREYE (2 PACK)
SHOP HERE ➤
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
I READERS FAVOURITES THIS SEASON
BIO BODY OIL Bio-Oil Skincare Body Oil, Moisturizer for Scars and Stretchmarks, Hydrates Skin, Non-Greasy, Dermatologist Recommended, Non- Comedogenic, For All Skin Types, with Vitamin A, E. Great addition to any bathroom cabinet of self-care products!
SHOP NOW ➤
I sle of Paradise Self Tanning Drops
I Custom, color-correcting self-tan glow drops for face and body easily mix with your favorite skin care, foundation, or body care for a sunkissed glow. This is so easy to use and a an easy way to give that sun-kissed look in an instant!
SHOP NOW ➤
HERO PRODUCT
INEXPENSIVE WRINKLE TREATMENT RoC Retinol Correxion Deep Wrinkle Night Cream It's impossible to turn back the clock, but this rich night cream is the next best thing. The retinol- powered formula is clinically proven to make skin look 10 years younger by firming and reducing wrinkles — yes, even deep ones. INSTANTLY: Skin is hydrated. IN 4 WEEKS: Skin appears more radiant. Signs of photodamage appear diminished IN 8 WEEKS: 93% had a visible improvement in the appearance of deep wrinkles. IN 12 WEEKS: Wrinkles are visibly reduced by up to 50%. Dermatologist tested Paraben-free
SHOP NOW ➤
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
lilac
Lilac Lids
This spring, lilac eye shadow is making a fresh and captivating statement across all age groups. This soft and feminine hue adds a touch of whimsy and sophistication to any makeup look, effortlessly brightening and enhancing the eyes. From pastel lilacs to deeper shades, there's a perfect tone for everyone to embrace. For younger individuals, lilac eye shadow offers a playful and youthful vibe, perfect for experimenting with makeup and expressing individual style. It adds a pop of color that complements youthful skin tones and adds a fun element to any makeup routine. For mature individuals, lilac eye shadow can bring a subtle yet elegant touch to the eyes, creating a sophisticated and polished appearance. It brightens the eyes and adds a soft, romantic allure without looking overpowering or overly dramatic. Overall, lilac eye shadow is a versatile and universally flattering choice for spring, offering a fresh and modern twist on traditional eye makeup looks. Whether worn subtly for a daytime look or layered for a more intense evening style, lilac eye shadow adds a beautiful and on-trend touch to any makeup collection. Love Lisa W. xxxx HOLA SOBER | MADRID
the new spring shade
lilac
Lilac Lips
This spring, embrace the natural freshness of lilac lip gloss to enhance your makeup look. Lilac lip gloss offers a soft and subtle pop of color that complements various skin tones and adds a touch of vibrancy to your overall appearance. For younger women, lilac lip gloss provides a fun and youthful twist to their makeup routine. It adds a playful element to their look while still maintaining a fresh and natural vibe, perfect for everyday wear or special occasions. For mature women like myself, lilac lip gloss brings a sophisticated and modern elegance to their makeup look. It enhances the lips with a subtle hint of color, creating a soft and romantic allure that complements their age beautifully. Overall, lilac lip gloss is a versatile and universally flattering choice for spring makeup. Its natural freshness brightens the complexion and adds a touch of femininity to any look, making it an essential addition to your makeup collection this season. Whether worn alone for a subtle sheen or layered over lipstick for added dimension, lilac lip gloss is sure to elevate your spring makeup game. Love Lisa W. xxxx
the new spring shade
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
Nails This Season
HOT THIS SEASON
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
& BEAUTY
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
Spring Colour Palette
Pistachio Green
Grey
Purple - Lilac
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
2024
hola sober fashion
Lilac Style: FASHION TRENDS One of the hot season's colours of lavender is making waves in both home styling and fashion. With its soft and soothing tones, lavender adds a touch of elegance and tranquility to any space or wardrobe. Whether used in accents like throw pillows and curtains or as a statement piece in clothing and accessories, lavender brings a sense of calm and sophistication. Its versatility allows it to complement a wide range of styles, from modern and minimalist to bohemian and romantic. Embracing lavender this season is a surefire way to infuse your surroundings and wardrobe with a sense of serenity and style.
We have a clear vision of the spring trends, especially in terms of fashion. Among the various trending colours, one hue stands out prominently. Soft shades of purple, ranging from muted orchid tones to delicate lilacs, graced the runways from New York to Paris. Designers such as Carolina Herrera, Staud, Givenchy, Balmain, Colin Locascio, Jonathan Cohen, Rodarte, Pat Bo, Issey Miyake, Wiederhoeft, David Koma, Supriya Lele, and Feben all incorporated variations of this captivating color into their collections. Trendalytics, a retail analytics platform, confirms the growing interest in these shades. They report a 10.2% increase in searches over the last three months compared to the previous year, attributing this rise to factors such as Sofia Richie Grainge's purple manicure and the emerging trend of balletcore.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
PLATFORM LOAFER
This Barcelona brand is my favourite loafer this season and they come in multiple colours. They are also on sale at the minute; so if you are looking for a platform swede smart loafer, look no further.
SHOP
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
All things lilac, lavendar and soft pastels work this Spring.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
PRADA MULE
I know I will get emails saying my taste is too expensive but I stand over this choice of mules as they are a once-in- a-lifetime purchase and very cool. I also adore the colour green! These satin mules are elegant and probably involve a helping hand to walk them but they are divine and I shall lean on my handsome husband! l brand is making waves again this year with this one!
SHOP
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
All things pistachio green and chocolate, cherry red and whatever you want to wear, works this Spring.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
At the age of 70, Christie Brinkley, the timeless supermodel, shared her joy on Instagram not with cake and a new cardigan, but with a cheerful mirror selfie in snug sportswear. Despite boasting abs that would make a 25-year-old envious, it was her choice of activewear reflecting her vibrant energy that truly resonated. The enduring popularity of 'athleisure' continues, a trend where athletic wear transcends the confines of the gym and becomes a staple in everyday fashion. This phenomenon, which swept the catwalks nearly a decade ago, still maintains its influence and relevance, embodying a fusion of style and functionality in modern attire.
CLICK HERE
(Image taken from website)
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
Treat yourself to these Gucci sunglasses and protect your eyes in the winter sunshine. How many women have you had coffee with on an outside terrace as they squint madly over their latte!!
CLICK HERE (Image taken from website)
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
Woven from 100% cotton, the Eloise zip-through knit is the perfect transitional layer..
CLICK HERE
(Image taken from website)
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
QUILTED
The quilted bag is a cornerstone of the COS collection. This mini version is the perfect size for everyday – it's designed to tuck neatly under your shoulder and shaped to fit your phone, keys and water bottle, with a zipped pocked inside for your valuables.
MARY JANES
.These directional shoes marry two key footwear trends of the season: ballet pumps and Mary-Janes.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
These wide-leg trousers are a cornerstone of our collections at COS. Crafted from pure cotton, they're offered in a soft lilac hue and expertly tailored with roomy front pleats and neat centre folds
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
BOW BLOUSE
High-neck blouse with a tie, long sleeves, and a buttoned opening at the back. This works with jeans or a smart pair of trousers. I love the colour and the style - it’s timeless and affordable.
SILK PASTEL
SCollared shirt with long sleeves. Adjustable waist with fine drawstring. Button-up front hidden by a placket.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
THE CUFF THIS SEASON
Rest assured, my fascination with '80s- inspired cuff bracelets shows no signs of fading anytime soon. With renowned fashion houses like Saint Lauren showcasing them in their recent collections, means I feel in fashion again! They'll remain fashionable in the upcoming seasons, with brands like Tom Ford also embracing them I feel my cuff-collection will increase this season!
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
PINK PENCIL SKIRT
ALEXIA ADMOR pink pop of colour is a fabulous addition to your wardrobe this Spring.
SHOP
TOUS CROSS BAG
This FABULOUS Spring cross-over bag from the Spanish brand brings a smile and comes in a dozen different colours!!! SHOP
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
TREND ALERT
FAUX LEATHER
Faux leather fashion remains a prominent trend as we transition into spring. From sleek jackets to stylish skirts, faux leather pieces offer versatility and sustainability without compromising on style. As designers incorporate faux leather into their collections, it's evident that this trend is here to stay. Embracing faux leather allows fashion enthusiasts to make ethical choices without sacrificing the edgy and chic look that leather provides. Whether it's a faux leather jacket paired with denim or a faux leather skirt styled with a blouse, this trend adds an element of sophistication to any spring wardrobe.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
TREND ALERT
SEQUINS
SEQUINS
According to experts, this year's trends, such as the disco glamour of sequins and the revival of childhood classics like bows and preppy polos, mirror a similar trajectory, but with an added touch of whimsy. Sequins are making a comeback this spring, and there's no need to shy away from them. Instead, embrace all things shiny and incorporate them into your wardrobe, even on a Monday, to add some sparkle and radiance to your ensemble. Revel in your sober wardrobe; there's no need to conceal anymore.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
JENNIFER BRIDGMAN WILD CHILD
DECEMBER 2023 | ISSUE NO 112
I believed that a woman who drank alcohol was popular and desirable; she was self-assured and successful; she was liberated and intelligent; she was friendly and approachable; and most notably, she was healthy and normal. Long before I would ever hold a drink in my hand, I’d held a vision in my head: I would grow up to be a drinker. Not a problem drinker, of course—no one sets out to become one of those. But a woman who drank. And why not? It was the natural way to unwind, connect, and reward oneself. As a child, I was highly sensitive, vigilant, and impressionable. An adept junior researcher who collected evidence about the world around me through observation, television, movies, music, magazines, and marketing. Early on, I'd come to associate the wine or martini glass with style and sophistication, the champagne flute with romance and celebration. Things like a longneck bottle or red Solo cup represented joy and connection. And a shot glass? Even that appealed to me. A woman who could hold her liquor—one who looked like a girl but could drink like a guy—well, that was the ultimate power play. Anything that bordered on edgy and rebellious was particularly appealing to me, a timid dreamer type with an unfortunate knack for turning beet red. It's no wonder I studied and admired women who exuded confidence and charisma—or that I noticed how often they were portrayed with a drink in hand. There was no question that a life with alcohol was the preferred existence. It was the enlightened way. It was the acceptable way. And perhaps most significant of all, it was the normal way. For most of my life, I bought into the lie—the one that tells us that a life with alcohol is a better one. As a child of the 80s and a teen of the 90s, I soaked up all the messaging around me regarding life, love and what it meant to be a happy and empowered modern- day woman.
Initially, it wasn't the boozy buzz of drink that appealed to me as much as the overall image. I viewed drink as a prop, a social cue, an accessory. As young girls, many of us naturally try things on for size: we play dress-up and extend our pinkies during imaginary tea parties, and later, some of us graduate to test driving a wine stem, practicing how to grasp it between our fingers or pose with it raised for photographs. On special occasions when I was handed a delicate flute of sparkling Martinelli's, I grinned with delight at the clinking glasses and golden fizz. The thrill was visceral. I couldn't wait to turn 21 and sit at the grown-up table. I couldn't wait to start my better life. My first drink ended up being well before age 21—I was 14 years old and among the last within my social circle. My trajectory was fairly standard: alcohol was a party, then a priority, then a problem. I became known as a drinker, which quickly became a source of pride. I liked what my new identity said about me: I was finally that fun, free- spirited girl I’d aspired to be. High school, college and early adulthood merely reinforced my false belief that women who drink are the trailblazers. We were the ones out there living technicolor lives in a beige world. I firmly believed that drinking was my right and my reward. My friends and I referred to booze as "liquid courage"— acknowledging that drinking enabled us to do or say things we otherwise normally wouldn't. On the flip side, alcohol was an equally effective scapegoat; whenever we’d done something regrettable, we could chalk it up to being intoxicated. Drinking made us feel alive. But the truth that none of us had understood—and many of those same females never will—is that every time we were picking up a drink, we were killing ourselves slowly in plain sight. We were diminishing and disempowering ourselves, all while believing we were rebels.
.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
As the years progressed, booze for me became far more than a prop—it had become my life force, and without it circling through my veins, I felt like a fraud playing my own part. Underneath the “wild child” image, I was that same timid girl looking for meaning in the world and a place to belong. I remained baffled by my secret, obsessive longing for alcohol and the all- consuming degree to which it dominated my thoughts and energy. What had begun as the best thing about me had turned into the worst. I managed to hide my alcohol obsession remarkably well, even as it snowballed. By the time I got sober in my early 40s, I’d been dancing the impossible moderation Tango for years— stumbling between white-knuckle abstinence and dark, secretive drinking. I repeatedly tripped over my own two feet with no clue how to exit the dance floor. I couldn’t understand myself, and I was certain no one else ever would. The chains of shame had grown far heavier in addiction now that I was a wife and mother. I remained hung up on the parts of my story that made me an anomaly: no known family history of alcohol abuse or addiction; two parents and two siblings who all drank moderately; no significant early childhood neglect, trauma, or abuse. I’d been loved and wanted, my childhood home warm and stable. My story did not have a logical trajectory, yet there I went, barreling toward an early grave. And why? Shame and blame. I had continued to buy into the same lies that I’d been fed as a young girl: the ones insisting that alcohol isn’t a problem, only the people who cannot handle it. I didn’t just have society pointing their finger at me. I was pointing the finger at myself, too. A truth bomb was about to explode and change everything: the simple truth was that I had become addicted to an addictive substance, which can—and does—happen to anyone. I was not flawed. I was not some black sheep or lost cause. My body and brain had behaved exactly as they were designed. As my awareness grew, my shame began to shrink. And my self- compassion and courage began to bloom. I discovered that even after so many years of exposing myself to a toxic and addictive substance, I could recover. I was not a victim. I was a survivor.
At 3.5 years sober, I have redefined for myself what it means to be a happy and empowered modern-day woman. Being wild and liberated does not mean showing up as the life of the party with a drink in hand; it is showing up as myself with my heart on my sleeve. Or not showing up at all, if that feels right. Being powerful does not mean controlling other people; it is taking full ownership of my life and choices. It is remaining soft and kind, even when the world has its way with me. Being free does not mean the ability to get drunk; it is waking up with my dignity, integrity, and memory all intact. Being courageous means raising my hand in a recovery meeting and saying the very things I am afraid to voice. It is asking for help or accepting it, which are often two difficult things for us women to do in a society that constantly reminds us we are the helpers and fixers. It is sharing my story—no matter how daunting that may feel—because I know its not only an act of service for myself but for others. A truly meaningful existence for me is having a woman I have never met reach out to let me know that because of my words, she found her final Day One. Two nights ago, I walked through the center grocery store aisle—the large, well-lit one, smack in the middle with all the bottles. I know this aisle well. I used to hit this aisle frequently, bargaining and berating myself as I snatched a bottle or two for my cart, quickly rearranging the bread and cereal boxes to conceal the evidence as I beelined to the checkout counter. That woman I used to be, standing in line with wine in her cart and cortisol coursing through her veins, was not a powerful woman. She was not free. There was no romance ahead on the agenda that night. No lasting joy ready to be poured. No bold moves or proud moments are about to unfold in front of her husband or children.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
Two nights ago, I sashayed right down the middle of that same aisle, feeling a powerful thrill in the knowledge that I would not be pausing there again. For so long, I worried certain parts of me would have to die when I became sober—the unbridled, edgy and cool parts. Today, I know otherwise. I call upon my inner rebel every day. I need her strength as I sit bravely with my emotions and fears. I depend upon her as I straighten my spine and head out into a world that still buys into the myths about women and alcohol. Today, I do not rely on liquid courage or work tirelessly to uphold some curated image that insists I am bold and free. I simply am. I am a pioneer. I am a revolutionary. Because to be proudly sober in today's world is a true act of rebellion. Addiction kept me small for so long. My pride today is not simply because of my marriage or my kids or my accomplishments—I have pride in simply being me. I have become fluent in the language of truth and vulnerability. I show up as the same person no matter what room I walk into. I live in a house where the truth is told. I have lost invitations and some people, but I have found real friendships and spaces in which I am genuinely wanted. Recovery has reunited me with my inner wild child, and she is everything I ever longed to be. Today, I finally know what it means to be a trailblazer because the bravest thing I have ever done is to stand up with my head high, sword drawn, sequins on and declare, " Not today, lady. Not today."
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
Reminder
With each new day, you have the chance to grow into a better version of yourself.
Okay
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
APRIL 2024
MON
TUE
WED
THU
FRI
SAT
SUN
1
2
3
4
5
6
7
8
9
10
11
12
13
14
15
16
17
18
19
20
21
22
23
24
25
26
27
28
29
30
SPRING 2024
Beth M. T.
clarity
ADHD
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
There are two things I have thought about myself for years:
1. I don't drink the way other people do, and I drink too much; 2. I think differently from many people in my life; I am described as quirky. Why talk about my ADHD and alcohol history? Why am I writing about this for a sober magazine? Because I believe my undiagnosed ADHD and my alcohol misuse are undeniably linked, and it's important to talk about it.
My story may also resonate with others.
Years ago, a healthcare professional semi- jokingly said she thought I had ADHD
At that time, we genuinely believed ADHD was just something that 'naughty boys' had. Everyone thought her suggestion was preposterous, But it stayed in the back of my mind for years. When a close family member was diagnosed, the wheels were set in motion for my diagnosis.
Signs of ADHD growing up
As a child, I was described as feisty, determined, dramatic, and funny. I was the comedy act at family gatherings, brave, and tiny, yet would lose my temper and fight anyone. I was very emotional; I once stopped eating for a week because I watched a TV show where a pig was killed and couldn't stop thinking about it.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
I threw many tantrums, and there are countless photos of me mid- scream as a child. I also remember crying for no reason other than just feeling very off. I constantly tried to make my head be quiet, playing a game where I would try not to think, but I would quickly realize that when I quietened one part of my brain, another part would start talking. I was also very impulsive. I remember getting into trouble for fighting at school. I couldn't understand why you would waste time arguing when a quick bop on the nose would sort the other person out quickly! But I wasn't a problem child; the issues were just flashes, and then I would calm down. I was a walking contradiction: loud, funny, and confident at school, yet I craved time alone. Being grounded was not a punishment for me. I much preferred playing with my dolls and making up adventures in my head alone.
They would complain about my tardiness and late homework. But again, I was never considered to have problems. I think they thought I didn’t care, which was true unless the topic was interesting or exciting to me. I could only finish homework under pressure. If I liked the subject, I would excel. I left school with a scattering of exams, but nowhere near where I should have been. I am not surprised that ADHD wasn’t considered back then. I learned early on how to hide the things that made me feel different. I constantly made everything into a joke. So, when I messed up, got distracted, or got times or dates wrong, it was seen as me being funny and became part of my personality. I guess everyone thought I was just ditzy and clumsy.
I ntroduction of alcohol
I and nightclubbing weekly by 15. This sounds shocking now, but it was common then. We weren't asked for ID, and as girls, makeup and clothes made it easier to sneak into places. started drinking at 14 I loved how alcohol made me feel. I had always struggled with nervousness before going out. Alcohol was my solution. After a couple of drinks, I felt confident and less self- conscious. The only downside was that I always ended up the most drunk. I used to joke that I was allergic to alcohol, explaining why I was always the most wasted at the end of the night.
Teen years
In senior school, I was still very confident on the outside, but I struggled with social anxiety and anxiety in general. I didn’t enjoy school. I was bright and popular but underachieving. Boring lessons were torturous. I used to set my watch slow, hoping for a nice surprise when the bell rang. My school reports were consistent: 'easily distracted, distracts others.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
University years Throughout university, I used alcohol to deal with my feelings. I was the one with stupid ideas, the one who drank too much, the one always in trouble when I drank. I had many friends and had two close friends - we did everything together but I still felt like I was the outsider. I felt like it was them and me instead of us. I always felt so different and not in a good way. I also struggled with essay writing and revision at university. My favourite subject was Modern Political Thought. My tutor and I would discuss philosophy and modern thinking. He was disappointed when he saw my average exam results and assignments. I knew my stuff, but I couldn’t revise it or articulate it on paper. I still could only do anything under pressure, which meant nothing was of the standard it should have been. From a young age, I craved time alone and wanted to escape. Nothing was different at university. I had recently lost my mother, adding to my turmoil. Alcohol took away the pain, but the escape was never long enough to make anything better. Motherhood Fast forward to my twenties and thirties, now a mum and married. I found staying at home with the children difficult. I loved and adored them, but sometimes it was crushingly boring, and I felt like a useless mum. I preferred practical activities like painting, cooking, or playdates. I was also impulsive. For example, after seeing an advert with baby alpacas, I booked us on an alpaca walk. Not the craziest thing in the world but definitely unexpected. The kids loved it.
This is when my drinking ramped up. I drank to overcome boredom and the overwhelming feeling of panic and overwhelm. Wine was my 'solution' to feeling better. Diagnosis My ADHD symptoms worsened in recent years. My concentration was worse than ever, and I was frequently overwhelmed. I became peri- menopausal, which exacerbated my ADHD symptoms. I was sober when I received my diagnosis. Interestingly, one of the first questions from the psychiatrist was about substance misuse. People with ADHD may be at higher risk for several reasons: with ADHD might use substances to cope with their symptoms. For example, they might use stimulants to help focus or alcohol to calm hyperactivity. My brain never shuts up. There are songs, conversations, thoughts ·Self-medication: Individuals memories, worries - you name it, it’s happening. For a very short while alcohol would quieten this. It was back bigger and better though at 3am, but now I felt ill as well as overwhelmed. ·Impulsivity: ADHD is characterised by symptoms like impulsivity and risk- taking behaviour, which can lead to experimenting with drugs and alcohol. Co-occurring disorders: ADHD often coexists with other mental health disorders such as anxiety or depression, which can increase the risk of substance abuse.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
·Social factors: People with ADHD might face challenges in social settings, leading them to use substances to fit in or feel more comfortable in social situations. a neurotransmitter that helps regulate mood and attention. People with ADHD have lower levels of dopamine and constantly seek ways to boost it. For me, alcohol seemed an easy way to feel better, but the 'stop switch' was never activated. Alcohol releases dopamine, Being diagnosed helped me understand aspects of my personality and why certain things were more difficult for me. It also shed light on my relationship with alcohol. In the past, I felt like an outsider, even in AA. My story seemed different. The diagnosis allowed me to give myself a break. ‘Not another one thinking they have ADHD; they are all at it” – actual words from a friend of mine. Getting diagnosed with ADHD wasn't the full stop at the end of my messy sentence; it was more like a comma, giving me a chance to catch my breath and figure out what came next. It's a bit like your GPS starting to work on your maps app, when you have been driving around lost for ages. Now I understand why I did the things I did, and it's like a lightbulb moment every single day. Life's still a rollercoaster, but I am learning to enjoy the ride, twists, turns, and all, without needing a bottle to get through it. This journey of mine, with all its ups and downs, is not just about me. If it rings true for even one person who's reading this, feeling a bit lost and thinking they're the only one – well then, sharing my story is worth it.
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
You Are Amazing, strut accordingly -Susan Christina-
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
We need to talk about Blood Sugar Monitoring by Sophie Pelham-Burn NMEDSCI, ANUTR
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
We need to talk about blood glucose monitoring.....
to panic people into under fueling for the performance that is our everyday lives. Similarly, choosing the food that will give us the lowest spike isn’t always the healthier choice. For example, chips have a lower impact on blood sugars than a baked potato, and a glass of Coke Zero will have no impact at all while a glass of orange juice definitely will. I don’t think anyone would argue that chips and Coke are the healthier choices in either of those scenarios! And when having the baked potato and glass of OJ we can be sensible about what we pair them with to slow their absorption, but we don’t need a CGM or an expensive app to tell us how to do that. A quick chat with a nutritionist would do the job. But, that’s not to say they don’t have their uses. For some of my athletes they were very useful in helping them visualise how much more carbohydrate they needed to consume to maintain the high exercise intensities required. For the rest of us non-athletes, blood glucose spikes are a totally normal occurrence, but we do want them to come down again in a nicely controlled way as the hormone insulin kicks in. If the spikes are staying high for too long that could be an issue for pre-diabetes, but that’s a fairly specific circumstance. Certainly, as women age we tend to become a little more insulin resistant as our estrogen levels decline so we could perhaps consider using one at that life stage. However, in both of those cases my preferred way to look at blood glucose levels would be a simple finger prick blood test to look at something called HbA1C. That’s a way of looking at glucose within the blood cells, and it tells us what your glucose levels have been like as an average of the past 3 months. It’s a lot simpler and quicker than a CGM, and comes without the pitfalls of a disturbed relationship with food that often accompanies any kind of very close monitoring of food intake. It’s also a lot cheaper!! My overall thoughts on the CGM trend is that it’s unnecessary, and there is a lot of extremely unhelpful fear mongering in the way they’re being marketed. For the majority of my clients I would much rather they spend their money on good quality wholefoods, and extra virgin olive oil; that stuff ain’t cheap! If you are in any way concerned about your blood glucose levels, changing metabolism around the menopause, or overall nutrition please do feel free to reach out to me at Email: sophie@pelhamburn- nutrition.com.
One of the biggest trends set to hit the personalised nutrition space in 2024 is continuous blood glucose monitoring or CGM for short. CGM monitors are small disks that are usually placed on the back of the arm and have a flexible microfilament that extends into the skin. That is then able to measure blood glucose levels (or rather it measures glucose levels in the fluid that surrounds each cell not the actual blood as it doesn’t go that deep, but the two measures correlate quite well) continuously and relay that information to an app on your phone. This technology has revolutionised diabetes management by providing real-time insights into blood glucose levels, however, CGM is now gaining traction among people without diabetes who are interested in optimising their health and well-being. So is it worth doing? My answer, as always, is that it depends! But despite the very heavy marketing from celebrities like Davina McCall, Steven Bartlett, and the health professor behind it all, Tim Spector, for most people I’d say no, absolutely not. Let’s have a look at why. Firstly, our blood glucose levels are meant to fluctuate throughout the day and they do so in response to about 100 different influencing factors, only one of which is what we’ve eaten. If you’ve slept poorly your blood glucose levels are likely to be slightly higher the next day, if you’re exercising they’ll rise again regardless of whether you’ve eaten anything or not, and one of the biggest things to affect blood glucose levels is stress. When I was working with the French national ski teams I looked after a lot of athletes who trained on roller skis (a lot like rollerblading) during the summer months. Sometimes they had to train on the roads which could be quite stressful in heavy traffic. Stress has such a huge impact that I could always tell how bad the traffic was just from looking at their blood glucose data! As well as the fact there are so many different influences on blood glucose, it’s perfectly normal and healthy to have a glucose spike after a meal or snack. Even if that meal contains only protein, we’ll still have a spike. Oftentimes, when athletes have wanted to use CGM I’m alerted to underfuelling by the absence of a spike. But it’s not just elite athletes who need to fuel for the day ahead, we all do, so to start demonising a perfectly normal and healthy rise in blood glucose after eating is a surefire way
Website: Pelham Burn Nutrition
HOLA SOBER | MADRID
Page 1 Page 2 Page 3 Page 4 Page 5 Page 6 Page 7 Page 8 Page 9 Page 10 Page 11 Page 12 Page 13 Page 14 Page 15 Page 16 Page 17 Page 18 Page 19 Page 20 Page 21 Page 22 Page 23 Page 24 Page 25 Page 26 Page 27 Page 28 Page 29 Page 30 Page 31 Page 32 Page 33 Page 34 Page 35 Page 36 Page 37 Page 38 Page 39 Page 40 Page 41 Page 42 Page 43 Page 44 Page 45 Page 46 Page 47 Page 48 Page 49 Page 50 Page 51 Page 52 Page 53 Page 54 Page 55 Page 56 Page 57 Page 58 Page 59 Page 60 Page 61 Page 62 Page 63 Page 64 Page 65 Page 66 Page 67 Page 68 Page 69 Page 70 Page 71 Page 72 Page 73 Page 74 Page 75 Page 76 Page 77 Page 78 Page 79 Page 80 Page 81 Page 82 Page 83 Page 84 Page 85 Page 86 Page 87 Page 88 Page 89 Page 90 Page 91 Page 92 Page 93 Page 94 Page 95 Page 96 Page 97 Page 98 Page 99 Page 100 Page 101 Page 102 Page 103 Page 104 Page 105 Page 106 Page 107 Page 108 Page 109 Page 110 Page 111 Page 112 Page 113 Page 114 Page 115 Page 116 Page 117 Page 118 Page 119 Page 120 Page 121 Page 122 Page 123 Page 124 Page 125 Page 126 Page 127 Page 128 Page 129 Page 130 Page 131 Page 132 Page 133 Page 134 Page 135 Page 136 Page 137 Page 138 Page 139 Page 140 Page 141 Page 142 Page 143 Page 144 Page 145 Page 146 Page 147 Page 148 Page 149 Page 150 Page 151 Page 152 Page 153 Page 154Made with FlippingBook - Online magazine maker