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Winter 2022 — What’s Inside

PATHWAYS PROFILE Project Knitwell: Knitting with a Purpose.............................................................................................9 By Lauren Brennan YOGA TODAY $VWUR<RJD By Emily Ridout TO YOUR HEALTH &RQQHFWLQJ'HHSO\ZLWK1DWXUH+HDOVWKH0LQG By Jerry Chesnut ACCESSING YOUR INTUITION The Shadow Self...................................................................................................................................15 By Jena Morrison ON THE PATH (QGRI/LIH'RXODV&DUHIRU&URVVLQJ2YHU By Jennie Sikes ASTROLOGICAL INSIGHTS :LQWHU4XDUWHU/LYLQJ5HVSRQVLEO\ By Misty Kuceris MIND-BODY-SPIRIT +RZWR6HW<RXU,QWHQWLRQDQG*HW:KDW<RX:DQW By Patricia Bonnard SEASONAL INSIGHTS )LQGLQJ7KDW3HUIHFW+ROLGD\6SDUNOH$)RROSURRI:D\WR6HOHFWWKH3HUIHFW&U\VWDO*LIW By Andee Zahorchak WASHINGTON GARDENER :LQWHU3ODQW3LFNV By Kathy Jentz CULTIVATING COMPASSION A Trip to The Slaughterhouse .............................................................................................................47 By Milton Mills, MD; Edited by Cam MacQueen ON THE PATH 7UDYHO:LWK=HQ0LQGIXO7LSV%HIRUH'XULQJDQG$IWHU<RXU7ULS By Lindsey Van Wagner PATHWAYS WINTER EXPO & ONLINE MARKETPLACE ~ SUNDAY, DECEMBER 11, 2022 $Q,QYLWDWLRQ)URP<RXU3DWKZD\V7HDP Please join us for a NEW mind-body-spirit-eco holiday event that combines in-person shopping and a virtual marketplace with seasonal specials for the Pathways Community that will stay online until the New Year. Support local businesses by shopping small, not big-box. Our workshops feature topics intended to get us centered and ready to move forward. Overall, we hope you’ll spend your money and time with purpose and intention to keep resources in the communities where we live and work. $QGZHZDQWWRFORVHRXWWKLVLQWHQVH\HDUUHÀHFWLQJRQZKDWZHDOOQHHGWRUHVWDQGUHJHQHUDWHGXULQJWKHZLQ - ter quarter. This issue gives you food for thought, drinks for health and comfort, and resources to start fresh with new hobbies and habits in the New Year. We have immense gratitude for our Pathways Community and wish you DOOZHOOQHVVSURVSHULW\SHDFHDQGDEXQGDQWMR\LQ

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Project Knitwell: Knitting With a Purpose

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AstroYoga 101

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Connecting Deeply With Nature Heals the Mind


ed with stress), lower pulse rate, lower blood pressure, greater para- sympathetic nerve activity, and lower sympathetic nerve activity than do city environments.” And what about spending time with animals? -RXUQDOLVW $OLQD %UDGIRUG ZULWLQJ LQ WKH 2FWREHU1RYHPEHU LV - sue of 7KH(DUWK , , states that “interacting with animals has been found to release chemicals in the brain, such as oxytocin, that can lead to stress and pain relief, happiness, relaxation, and other welcomed mental states.” How Much Time in Nature is Needed? You certainly don’t need to be a scientist to appreciate time spent in nature. The 19 th FHQWXU\$PHULFDQQDWXUDOLVW-RKQ0XLUZURWHWKDW ³QDWXUH¶V SHDFH ZLOO ÀRZ LQWR \RX DV VXQVKLQH ÀRZV LQWR WUHHV 7KH winds will blow their own freshness into you, and the storms their en- ergy, while cares will drop away from you like the leaves of Autumn.” 6R KRZ PXFK WLPH GR DGXOWV QHHG WR VSHQG LQ QDWXUH WR UHDOL]H VXFKEHQH¿WV"$FFRUGLQJWR3URI/DV]OR³MXVW¿YHKRXUVSHUPRQWK LVVẊ FLHQWWRLPSURYHPRRGYLWDOLW\DQGIHHOLQJVRIUHOD[DWLRQ Wil- OLDPV 0RUHRYHUWLPHLQQDWXUHFDQEHVSHQWLQDFLW\SDUNDV

'XHLQSDUWWRWKHVRFLRHFRQRPLFLPSDFWVRIWKH&29,'SDQ - demic, mental health issues have been thrust into the media spotlight — perhaps as never before. Surging drug overdoses, crime, suicide, YLROHQFHDOFRKROLVPLQFLYLOLW\SROLWLFDOSRODUL]DWLRQDQGRWKHUVLJQV of mental imbalance are rampant in many parts of the globe. ,QWKHPHDQWLPHVFLHQFHFRQWLQXHVWRREVHUYHWKHPLQGIURPGHHS - er and broader perspectives, tying its performance and existence to HQHUJ\ ¿HOGV HSLJHQHWLFV WKH TXDQWXP ¿HOG FRQVFLRXVQHVV DZDUH - QHVVDQGHYHQWKHTXHVWLRQRI³:KDWLVWKHPLQGDQ\ZD\"´'RRXU thoughts come from our brain, or does our brain simply access tran- VFHQGHQWVRXUFH V "$UHWKRXJKWVDWUXHUHÀHFWLRQRIWKH0LQG" ,Q WKH PLGVW RI VR PDQ\ KXPDQFDXVHG VWUHVVRUV WKH QDWXUDO ZRUOG WRR LV VX̆ HULQJ 1RW RQO\ KDYH PHQWDO LPEDODQFHV ² JUHHG VHO¿VKQHVV HWF ² QHJDWLYHO\LPSDFWHG QDWXUH EXW SHRSOH KDYH ORVW sight of what nature means to them in a most fundamental and pro- found sense. :KDWLVWKHUHVXOWRIWKLVORVV"/LVD0LOOHU3URIRI3V\FKRORJ\DW &ROXPELD8QLYHUVLW\ says “we live in a situation where humans must be very scary to other living creatures.” Spending Time in Nature — A Review $VZHNQRZKXPDQVEHQH¿WIURPWKHPDWHULDOUHVRXUFHVWKDWQD - ture provides, but time spent in nature can also help resolve human PHQWDOD̈ LFWLRQV2QWRSRIWKDWWKHPRUHWLPHZHOOVSHQWLQQDWXUH WKHJUHDWHUWKHEHQH¿WV for both parties . This is something that nearly everyone knows to some degree. %XWXQGHUVWDQGLQJWKH³ZK\´FRXOGFRQWULEXWHWRDOLIWLQKXPDQFRQ - sciousness that leads to environmental restoration, something the world so badly needs. %HIRUHJHWWLQJLQWRWKH³ZK\´LWLVLPSRUWDQWWRUHYLHZZKDWQDWXUH can do for humanity’s mental states, which profoundly overlap phys- LFDOFRQGLWLRQVDVZHOO7KHEHQH¿WVDUHVRQXPHURXVDVWRUDLVHWKH question, “What does quality time in nature NOT do for humans?” According to a presentation E\3URI&KULV/DV]ORDWWKH7KLUG,QWHU - QDWLRQDO&RQIHUHQFHRQ6FLHQFHDQG*RGWKHEHQH¿WVRI³FRQQHFWLQJ to nature” include: “overall health improvement; stress relief; reduced negative emotions, such as GHFUHDVHGIHDUDQGDQJHUHQKDQFHGSRVLWLYHH̆ HFWVLPSURYHPHQWVLQPRRG and increased subjective well-being; feelings of joy and happiness; a sense of reconnection with self; kinship ties in teams; a heightened sense of communi- ty, kinship, egalitarianism, and belongingness, along with increased empathy ( )ORUHQFH ); a stronger sense of place; and improved cognitive abilities, LQFOXGLQJFUHDWLYLW\FRJQLWLYHÀRZDQGPHQWDOSHUIRUPDQFHLQSUREOHPVROY - ing.” $QG WKDW¶V MXVW IRU VWDUWHUV EHFDXVH WKHUH DUH VR PDQ\ GL̆ HUHQW ways of being in nature. For instance, just the act of walking “releases hormones, such as dopamine, serotonin, estrogen, and testosterone, that make a person feel better physically, mentally and emotionally,” writes 'U3DUDPLWD0DQGDODVVLVWDQWSURIHVVRUDW,QGLD¶V8QLYHUVLW\ RI%XUGZDQRQWKHWKHUDSHXWLFH̆ HFWVRIDPRUQLQJZDON Another way of being in nature involves time spent in forests where, according to  SV\FKRWKHUDSLVW 'U <DVXKLUR .RWHUD WDOO WUHHV FDQLPSDUWDVHQVHRIDZH³DQH̆ HFWDVVRFLDWHGZLWKYDULRXVSURVRFLDO behaviors, such as generosity and compassion.” Awe also helps one “transcend frame of reference,” says Kotera, citing 3L̆ HWDO . Kotera, citing an additional study, concludes: “Forest environ- ments promote lower concentrations of cortisol (a hormone associat-


easily as in a forest, beach, mountain, desert, or grassy plain.” +HDOVRVWUHVVHVWKHLPSRUWDQFHRIFKLOGUHQVSHQGLQJWLPHLQQD - WXUHFLWLQJDVXUYH\E\7KH1DWLRQDO7UXVWLQWKH8QLWHG.LQJ - GRPWKDWIRXQG³DOPRVWRISUHVFKRROHUVODFNHGUHJXODURXWGRRU play sessions while older children, aged ten to sixteen, spent only thir- teen minutes a day on vigorous outdoor activity.” Our Connection with Nature is Profound So, why have people — who came out of nature and have known LWVEHQH¿WVIRUPLOOHQQLD²FRPHWRDSODFHZKHUHWKH\DV3URI0LOOHU states, are “scary” to nature? What is it about the human-nature con- nection that is missing? What don’t we “get” about that connection? The answer has to do with how people and nature are connected. As science advances into a postmaterialist era — studying such WKLQJVDVWKHTXDQWXP¿HOG²WKDWFRQQHFWLRQLVFRPLQJPRUHLQWRIR - cus. What it promises could change how we relate to the environment. $FFRUGLQJWR3URI/D]VOR³TXDQWXPSK\VLFVLQSDUWLFXODULVJLYLQJ ULVHWRDQHZLGHDWKDWLQIDFWDWWKHPRVWLQ¿QLWHVLPDOOHYHORIWKHXQL - YHUVHWKHUHLVDFRQQHFWHGDQGFRKHUHQWXQL¿HG¿HOGD¿HOGRIHQHUJ\ and information that connects everything.” ,QVWHDGRIWKLQNLQJRIVSDFHDVDYDFXXPKHVD\VLWVKRXOGEHVHHQ DVD³SOHQXP´RUIXOOUHSOHWHZLWK³¿HOGVRIHQHUJ\YLEUDWLRQDO¿HOGV of energy [that] connect everything, not just metaphorically — but ac- tually.” Famous experiments such as the double-slit experiment, as well DV%HOO¶VWKHRUHPH[SHULPHQWVKRZWKLVSHUYDVLYHFRQQHFWLRQRU³HQ -

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The Shadow Self

VSLULWXDOO\,WD̆ HFWV\RXUUHODWLRQVKLSZLWK\RXUVHOIDVZHOODVRWKHUV The struggle to know and work with your shadow self, your Whole Self, reminds me of the Native American story of the Two Wolves. One evening, an elderly Cherokee brave told his grandson about a EDWWOHWKDWJRHVRQLQVLGHRIDOOSHRSOH +HVDLG³0\VRQWKHEDWWOHLVEHWZHHQWZRµZROYHV¶LQVLGHXVDOO 2QHLVPDOLFLRXV,WLVDQJHUHQY\MHDORXV\VRUURZUHJUHWJUHHG arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, VXSHULRULW\DQGHJR7KHRWKHULVYLUWXRXV,WLVMR\SHDFHORYHKRSH serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, WUXWKFRPSDVVLRQDQGIDLWK´ The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his JUDQGIDWKHU³:KLFKZROIZLQV"´ 7KHROG&KHURNHHUHSOLHG³,I,RQO\IHHGRQHWKHUHLVDSRZHULP - EDODQFH2QHZLOOEHFRPHKXQJU\LQUDJHDQGXVHLWVSRZHUWRGHIHDW WKHRWKHUZKHQLWLVQ¶WDZDUH7KHEDWWOHZLOOFRQWLQXHDQGQRSHDFH ZLOOFRPH,I,IHHGWKHPERWKULJKWWKH\ZLOOZRUNWRJHWKHU7KHZROI of rage and arrogance, if fed with proper food, becomes the wolf of FRXUDJHDQGVWUHQJWK<RXVHHWKHWZRZROYHVQHHGHDFKRWKHU)HHG - ing only one and starving the other will eventually make both uncon- WUROODEOH)HHGWKHPERWKDQG\RXZLOOTXLHWWKHLULQWHUQDOVWUXJJOH for your attention, and, when there is no battle inside, you can then hear the voices of deeper knowledge that will guide you in choosing WKHULJKWSDWKLQHYHU\FLUFXPVWDQFH 5HDGRQWR¿QGRXWKRZWRLGHQWLI\\RXUGDUNHUVLGHDQGOHDUQKRZ to live in balance with your shadow.


'XDOLVWLF WKLQNLQJ RI JRRG DQG HYLO DUH SUREOHPDWLF 7KH WUXWK LV we all contain both good and evil, and much of what’s inside of us isn’t easy to neatly label. What is important for us on our Spiritual Journey is to get to know ourselves, honestly and with compassion. That is where shadow work — a tool for dealing with our less attractive human tendencies — comes in. 0XFKKDVEHHQZULWWHQDERXWWKH7UXH6HOI²RXUGLYLQHVHOIRIXQ - conditional love — and the False Self — the ego. Less understood is the Shadow Self. We all have personality traits or tendencies we hide from others, are embarrassed by, or even are ashamed of, and tuck away as a re- VXOW8QGHUVWDQGLQJKRZ\RXU³GDUNVLGH´RSHUDWHVFDQKHOS\RXKDYH a better relationship with yourself and with others. Once you examine DQGPDNHSHDFHZLWKWKLVVLGHRI\RXUVHOI\RXPDNHURRPIRULQ¿QLWH growth. 7KHODWH$UFKELVKRS'HVPRQG7XWXZURWHLQ 7KH%RRNRI)RUJLY - LQJ7KH)RXUIROG3DWKIRU+HDOLQJ2XUVHOYHVDQG2XU:RUOG : $KXPDQOLIHLVDJUHDWPL[WXUHRIJRRGQHVVEHDXW\FUXHOW\ KHDUWEUHDNLQGL̆ HUHQFHORYHDQGVRPXFKPRUH:HZDQWWR divide the good from the bad, the saints from the sinners, but we FDQQRW$OORIXVVKDUHWKHFRUHTXDOLWLHVRIRXUKXPDQQDWXUH DQGVRVRPHWLPHVZHDUHJHQHURXVDQGVRPHWLPHVVHO¿VK6RPH - times we are thoughtful and other times thoughtless, sometimes ZHDUHNLQGDQGVRPHWLPHVFUXHO7KLVLVQRWDEHOLHI7KLVLVD IDFW 7KHVKDGRZVHOIKROGV\RXUSUHMXGLFHVVHO¿VKQHVVLPSXOVHVHQY\ JUHHGDQGRWKHUXQSOHDVDQWWUDLWV,W¶VFRPPRQIRUSHRSOHWRUHSUHVV WKHLU VKDGRZ VHOI EH XQDZDUH RI LW RU HYHQ GHQ\ LW DOWRJHWKHU %XW ignoring your shadow self is detrimental to living a healthy and peace- ¿OOHGOLIH<RXUVSLULWXDOMRXUQH\PXVWLQFOXGHVKDGRZZRUN Origins of the Shadow Self The concept of a shadow self comes from psychology. Psychi- atrist Carl Jung, whose work focused on the unconscious human psyche, wrote about the idea LQWKHV+HEHOLHYHGWKDWRXUXQ - FRQVFLRXVLVPDGHXSRIGL̆ HUHQWOD\HUVRIRXUVHOYHVZKDWKHFDOOHG archetypes — XQLYHUVDOO\UHFRJQL]HGV\PEROVWKHPHVRUSDWWHUQV that are used as models or examples. These include the persona, the self, anima or animus, and the shadow self. Jung believed people have a shadow self to contrast their “light side,” or the side they present to the public. The shadow self refers to all of the wounded habits we have de- veloped since childhood — to feel loved and to be “seen” and accepted in our environments — that we are often unaware of. You can usually LGHQWLI\SLHFHVRI\RXUVKDGRZE\ORRNLQJDWWKHWKLQJV\RX¿QGXQDW - tractive or unpleasant about others. Your shadow self can harbor everything from intense embarrass- ment to bitter sadness to profound rage. Shadow work is the emotion- al, intellectual and spiritual work you do to get to know your whole self in all its messy glory. For many people, doing shadow work means ex- cavating our psyches to bring the parts of ourselves we’ve been hiding — even from ourselves — from the unconscious or repressed realms to the conscious. Working with your shadow self involves being gentle with it. Your VKDGRZ VLGH LV QRW ³EDG´ ,W LV QRW D YLOODLQ WR EH FRQTXHUHG ,W LV D VFDUHGDQJU\KXUWSDUWRI\RX0DQ\ZRXQGVOLYHZLWKLQ\RXUVKDGRZ self. Once you begin the process of understanding all parts of yourself, you begin to have more compassion for yourself and others, know- ing they, too, are often acting and reacting from their own shadows. Talking to yourself as if you were dealing with a very young child usu- ally helps to approach yourself with tenderness and compassion. ,JQRULQJ\RXUVKDGRZVHOIDQGUHIXVLQJWRGRWKHZRUNQHFHVVDU\WR uncover and befriend it only leads to sadness and the inability to grow

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What is Shadow Work? ,Q VKDGRZ ZRUN ZH KDYH WR VWDUW ZLWK VHOIDZDUHQHVV WR XQGHU - stand which parts of us are our authentic selves and which are habits we’ve developed to protect the true self from harm. To do this, you need to pay attention to what you do and what your true motives are EHKLQG\RXUDFWLRQV3D\DWWHQWLRQWRKRZ\RXVSHDNWRGL̆ HUHQWSHR - ple, how you speak to yourself in your head, and how your body reacts LQGL̆ HUHQWVLWXDWLRQV1RWLFHWKLQJVWKDWERWKHU\RXDERXWRWKHUSHR - SOHWKLQJVWKDWPDNH\RXUEORRGVWDUWWRERLO'RWKLVREVHUYDWLRQZLWK as little judgment as possible. Again, we are not trying to erase or get rid of our shadow self. The JRDOLVWRUHFRJQL]HLWHPEUDFHLWDQGKHDOLWVRLWHQKDQFHV\RXDQG allows you to respond with clarity and compassion in life’s situations. Think self-awareness and self-acceptance.

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End-of-Life Doulas: Care for Crossing Over ON THE PATH

waves of grief, sorrow, pain, guilt, anger, and nostalgia happen all at once… “regular life” is no longer real. The grieving becomes real, and LWHEEVDQGÀRZVZLWKQRVWHSE\VWHSIRUPXOD Just as birth has an impact on our loved ones, death also has an im- SDFWRQRXUORYHGRQHVLQFOXGLQJWKHRQHLQKLVKHU¿QDOVWDJHV$QG while in birth we woo and swoon, smelling and touching the precious little bundle of joy that enters this world, and care for the mother to ensure her rest and recuperation in this beautiful milestone of life, we steer clear of the same when it comes to the elderly and the dying. /HW¶VGHOYHGHHSHU&RQVLGHUWKHKXPDQDWKLVKHUHQGRIOLIHZKR may be overwhelmed at the thought of leaving this earth. Consider also the loved ones that surround him, but they may be exhausted with OLWWOHRUQRKHOSZKHQFDULQJIRUWKHLUOLIHOLPLWLQJORYHGRQH+RZFDQ you manage all those raw emotions in place while the human is still alive when they are not openly discussed, or are being tip-toed around OHDGLQJXSWRWKH¿QDOGD\V":KHUHLVWKHFUHDWLRQRIDVDFUHGVSDFH ¿OOHGZLWKVRRWKLQJVRXQGVFDOPOLJKWLQJDQGWKHORYHEURXJKWE\YLV - itors; yet also allows for the near-death human her respective time to rest, to get acquainted with the other side, to reconnect with loved ones who have since passed but are arriving to help navigate the pass- ing energetically? Where is the encouragement to the loved ones that it is ok to release any emotional chords that are keeping the end stages patient holding on? Where is the respite care of the primary caregivers NHHSLQJYLJLOKRXUVDGD\ZLWKOLWWOHWRQRKHOS":KHUHLVWKHFRQ - versation about the upcoming transition to ease the day-to-day where possible? Naturally, there are variables in all lives, all situations, all scenar- ios. Not everyone has the luxury of caring directly for their parents, grandparents or other loved ones. Not everyone has the compassion RUWKH¿QDQFLDOVWDELOLW\RUWKHWLPHWRGRWKLV)XUWKHUPRUHLQWRGD\¶V society, there aren’t enough formally trained caregivers to go around. +RVSLFH FDUH LV DPD]LQJ KRZHYHU WKH GHPDQG RIWHQ RXWVWULSV WKH DYDLODEOHQXUVLQJVWD̆ VXSSO\OHDYLQJOLWWOHURRPIRUWKHUHVSLWHFDUH of the primary caregivers, much less that of simply being, sitting and sharing space with the patient. 7KLVLVZKHUHDQ(QGRI/LIH'RXODFRPHVLQDVDVROXWLRQDYDLODEOH WRIDPLOLHVZKRVHORYHGRQHVDUHQHDULQJWKHVH¿QDOVWDJHV$Q(QG RI/LIH'RXODWKHLUFDUHWHDPDQGQHWZRUNFDQEHRILPPHQVHKHOS² sharing space, gracefully communicating, providing support, creating DVDFUHGVSDFHDQGR̆ HULQJKROLVWLFPRGDOLWLHVWRHDVHIHDUVSDLQDQG PRUH WKLQN5HLNLHQHUJ\FOHDQVLQJWDSSLQJ*XLGHG,PDJHU\+\S - nosis). All it takes is awareness that there is help available and many Empaths of this world naturally lead in this direction as a full-time job or simply to help their community. Data and Duties For An End-of-Life Doula $Q (QGRI/LIH 'RXOD LV DQ LQGLYLGXDO ZKR KHOSV SHRSOH QHDULQJ death prepare emotionally and spiritually, providing non-medical ho- OLVWLFKHOSWRWKH&OLHQWDQGWKHLUVXSSRUWV\VWHP LQFOXGLQJ5HVSLWH &DUH $V,1(/'$ ,QWHUQDWLRQDO(QGRI/LIH'RXOD$VVRFLDWLRQ FRP - PXQLFDWHVLW³,QRXUPRGHUQZHVWHUQZD\RIOLIHZLWKWKHGLVEXUVH - ment of families, multiple generations no longer living together, the over dependence on technology, and the bias embedded in our health- care system, people have lost touch with the naturalness of dying and how best to support people going through it. As a result, too many SHRSOHGLHLQIHDUDQGXQQHFHVVDU\VX̆ HULQJ´ 7KHPDLQWDVNRIDQ(QGRI/LIH'RXODLVWRR̆ HUHPRWLRQDOVXS - SRUW ,Q HYHU\ ZRUG WRXFK DSSURDFK DQG PHWKRG XVHG ZH EULQJ careful attention to the inner well-being of our clients. We believe in people. We honor life and the mysterious enigma of death. Our aim LV WR OLVWHQ GHHSO\ DQG SURYLGH SHUVRQDOL]HG QRQMXGJPHQWDO FDUH WR promote our clients’ growth and sense of agency. Some important facts for you to consider:

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The Discomfort of Death 'HDWK LV D WRSLF PRVW DUH KHVLWDQW WR GLVFXVV ,W LV VKLHOGHG DZD\ IURPRXUUHDOLWLHV'HDWKUHSUHVHQWVRXUYXOQHUDELOLW\DQGWDNHVDZD\ IURPWKH,Q¿QLW\FRPSOH[DORWRIKXPDQVKDYH'HDWKFDQEHVFDU\ intimidating, and painful, and is not something one really wants to sit and think about. ,Q $PHULFDQ FXOWXUH ZKHUH WKHUH LV WKLV IHDU VXUURXQGLQJ DJLQJ and death, it’s not as common to care for the elderly during their end stages, unlike in other cultures around the world. Chinese children FDUHIRUWKHLUSDUHQWVLQROGDJH,Q,QGLDHOGHUVDUHWKHKHDGRIWKH IDPLO\DQGVHQGLQJWKHPWRDQROGDJHKRPHKDVDVRFLDOVWLJPD,Q DQFLHQW5RPHHOGHUVZHUHDSUHFLRXVUHVRXUFH1DWLYH$PHULFDQHO - GHUVSDVVGRZQWKHLUNQRZOHGJHDQGDFFHSWGHDWKDVDIDFWRIOLIH,Q .RUHDHOGHUVDUHKLJKO\UHVSHFWHG,QWKH$IULFDQ$PHULFDQFRPPX - nity, death is seen as an opportunity to celebrate life; the same holds WUXHLQ0H[LFDQFXOWXUH 0RVWRIXVDUHQRWWDXJKW²QRWE\IDPLO\RUFRQWHPSRUDU\VRFLHW\ — how to embrace death or even how to grieve. When someone has SDVVHGWKH\VLPSO\KDYHSDVVHG:HVHQGÀRZHUVDQGFDUGVRIV\P - pathy and comfort via text, phone or in person; or we make a casse- role or order evening meals to be delivered to the grieving, but we still PRYH RQ ZLWK RXU UHVSHFWLYH OLYHV +RZHYHU IRU WKH JULHYLQJ ZKHQ their loved one’s passing becomes their complete present reality, the

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