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Totally Fulfilled

More Money, More Freedom, More Smiles, Less Stress

Dean Graziosi

Totally Fulfilled: More Money, More Freedom, More Smiles, Less Stress Published by: Visionary Publishing

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Contents Dedication . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . vii Acknowledgments . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . ix Part 1 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 1 Chapter 1. Limitless Beliefs Equal a Limitless Life . . . . . . 3 Chapter 2. Success Leaves Clues . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 Chapter 3. Anything Is Possible . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Chapter 4. It’s a Bright New Day. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 37 Part 2 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 53 Chapter 5. Imagine the Possibilities with No Obstacles. . . 55 Chapter 6. No More Obstacles . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 65 Chapter 7. Time is on Your Side . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 79 Chapter 8. You Don’t Need Money to Make Money . . . . 85 Chapter 9. The Power of Solutions . . . . . . . . . . . . . 99 Chapter 10. Break Through to the Other Side . . . . . . . 105 Part 3 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 111 Chapter 11. Choose to Change. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 113 Chapter 12. Let Go of Your Fear. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 123 Chapter 13. Embrace the Unknown . . . . . . . . . . . . 129 Chapter 14. Change the Association — Change Your Life . 135 Chapter 15. Whatever It Takes . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 141

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Part 4 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 149 Chapter 16. Make the Connection . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 151 Chapter 17. The Rewards are Limitless . . . . . . . . . . . . 159 Chapter 18. Be a Giver . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 167 Chapter 19. Beware of Other People’s Opinions . . . . . . . 181 Chapter 20. Be a Person of Your Word . . . . . . . . . . . . 193 Part 5 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 201 Chapter 21. Choose to Be Fulfilled . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 203 Chapter 22. Discover the Reason Behind Your Goals . . . . . 213 Chapter 23. Let Go of Your Past . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 221 Chapter 24. Reason + Goals - Obstacles = Results . . . . . . 231 Part 6 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 241 Chapter 25. A Life Totally Fulfilled . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 243 Chapter 26. Putting It All Together. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 247 Chapter 27. Making It All Happen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 253 Part 7 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 259 Chapter 28. Inspiration is Timeless . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 261 AFinalMessage fromDean . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 291 About the Author . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 293

Dedication

I dedicate this book to my grandmother, Carmella Post. Your love, strength, encouragement, stability, and wisdom allowed me to be the man I am today. Your words will forever ring in my ears. As I write this book your health is failing fast, but your words are brighter than they have ever been. You were the first person to make me realize that anything was possible. Your unconditional love and support will last an eternity. I will love you always and forever. Thank you, Gram

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Acknowledgments

I’d like to thank my mother for overcoming huge hurdles and always putting her children first. Mom, your love and com- passion, even in the midst of adversity, have changed the destiny of me and my sister Paula for life. You are our hero even though you don’t believe it. I am thankful that my dad taught me such a variety of things that have helped me diversify with confidence. I know he is in my corner unconditionally, and I am fortunate to have that. I want to thank my sister, Paula, for always showing the strength it takes to overcome obstacles. Even though we live on oppo- site ends of the country, your loving support and caring, along with your wonderful family, warms my heart daily. I am so proud of you. Melissa, thank you for being a special part of my life. You are the one person who witnessed my humble beginnings. Thanks for believing in me unconditionally. I am blessed to have you in my life, first as my wife, and now as a best friend. I thank you, Jonelle, for being a shinning star in my life. You have been there for some of my toughest times and always had faith in me. You showed me a side of love I would have never known if I had not met you. Your loving support is empowering.

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I thank my grandfather, Albert Post, who died when I was just ten years old. He showed me a love and caring that to this day still warms my heart. I think of you often and appreciate the time we had together, even though it was very short. I want to thank all my friends who supported and loved me, even if they thought I was a bit crazy at some times. You were and are my family. Thank you for the laughs, the tears, and everything in between. I also want to thank all the people who have come in and out of my life and who have helped me learn and experience such a variety of things. I feel blessed to have accomplished so much in such a short amount of time. I know nothing in life worth writing about can be done as just a sole venture. So I thank everyone who has taught me valuable lessons on what path to take as well as what path to avoid.

Part 1

The “Core” of Success

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1 CHAPTER Limitless Beliefs Equal a Limitless Life

“The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitude of mind.” —William James

I was a very late bloomer physically. In fact I didn’t start to reach puberty until I was in high school. I weighed less than 100 pounds and stood well under five feet tall going in to the 10th grade. Worse, I had a high-pitched voice, so I got teased a lot. That wasn’t too bad because I attended the same school from fifth to eighth grade, so people got to know me as a person, not just the small kid with the high pitched voice. But then the one thing hap- pened that no middle school kid wants—I moved to another town and started at a new high school. Going to high school from middle school is hard enough, but combine that with being small,

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squeaky voiced, friendless, and until that point, being in a special reading class due to trouble in English all through middle school, and you can see my school life wasn’t great. Being small most of my life made me very shy, so making new friends was never easy. It didn’t help that among a certain seg- ment of kids I earned the nickname “Rocky.” Not after the pugnacious boxer in the movies, but the squirrel from “The Rocky and Bullwinkle” cartoon. Girls thought I was cute but not dateable. Kids that would be friends with me during class would ignore me at lunch or recess. I could deal with that. But then the all time trag- edy hit, swimming class in gym. After swimming class, everyone hit the showers and threw their suits in the basket, showered and got a towel. I was the only one in 10th grade whose head was the only place on their body with hair. You can imagine what hap- pened with that ordeal. Let’s just say that “hairless” and “squirrel” were tossed around. Before I go further, I have to say that this is not a “poor me” story. I know there are so many people that have it much worse off than I did and I am sorry for that. I share this story and other events because they helped me become who I am today. I was able to use these challenges to propel me forward and not hold me back. I am hoping you will be able to relate to even one part of my experiences, and you can turn a past situation from an anchor to the wind in your sails. Back to the story. My parents always told me, “You’re a late bloomer. Don’t worry about it.” My mom, dad and my gram always tried to encourage me, telling me I was a great person. If people couldn’t see that then it was their loss. They would tell me to be true to myself and in the end I would be the winner. Absolutely amazing advice—except hard for a 10th grader to value—especially after the shower incident. But after 10th grade …You can turn a past situation from an anchor to the wind in your sails.

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was over and I was still not growing, my father took me to the doc- tors. Good thing I went. For some reason, my body was not producing the right hormones to start puberty. So I was prescribed some sort of steroid and an appetite enhancer. I still remember Dr Kim and how he saved my high school life. Once I started the medication, I started puberty right away, I grew about 9 inches in a year and gained a bunch of weight. I am still only 5'8" but if I hadn’t gone to the doctors I may have never grown any taller. So thank you Dr Kim. Even before seeing Dr. Kim, I knew there was something inside of me growing; my outer appearance did not match what I was starting to feel on the inside. I didn’t believe that just because I was smaller than other kids I was inferior in any way. I took the name-calling, the odd looks, and the negativity that was surround- ing me and used it to my advantage. I’d say, “Someday I will show you all. No matter how big or small I am, I will succeed.” You know, a funny thing started happening—the more I told myself this, the more I believed it. I was growing both physically and mentally. By the end of 11th grade, I had a firewood cutting business and hired bunch of the bigger guys from high school to help split and carry the wood. These were some of the same guys who made fun of me just a few years earlier. I had an attractive girl- friend, I was making money, and I was starting to blossom as a person. Even though we had very little money while I was growing up, I bought a newer car that had been rolled over in an accident for next to nothing. I worked everyday after school with my father when I was fifteen to fix it up, and just a few months after I got my license, the car was done and it looked great. Thus, I was one of the few kids who had their own car. Best of all, I paid for it with mini- mal cash and sweat equity. It was a nice car and I was making money. I applied what I learned about hard work to school as well and by 10th grade I was in the regular English class. I also started to believe that no one can make me feel inferior without my permission. I love the saying, “it’s not the size of the dog

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in the fight, it’s the size of the fight inside of the dog.” Instead of being the victim, I turned the negativity into my reason for victory. I could have allowed my past to equal my future but instead I changed my belief and my destiny. I didn’t need to change, but the way I saw myself needed to. In a way, Dr. Kim helped to guide me further along a path I was already heading down. The Power of Perception Our beliefs about ourselves, our perceived boundaries, and the people around us have a huge impact on where we think we can go in life. Beliefs allow one person to believe he or she can go to the moon, while another person may believe it’s impossible to get even a $1.00 an hour raise. We get out of life what we believe we your limits, and what you deserve are radically different from a person who thinks being successful in even one area of life is an overwhelming, even impossible task. Remember, where you are in your life or where you have been in the past does not matter; you can always achieve more. Another level of success or fulfillment always awaits you around the corner. Do you creep up to that corner and peer nervously around it? Or do you stride confidently forward, eager to see what awaits you? We all have limiting beliefs inside us whether we know it or not, and they may be the main reason some of us can’t get to the next level in life. If you’re not where you want to be, if there are parts of your life you wish you could change but just can’t seem to, if you’re not as successful as you should be, it’s probably not your fault. Chances are, without realizing it, you’ve been conditioned for mediocrity . Until now. We become the people we believe we are. will get out of life. We become the people we believe we are. If you are successful in many areas of your life, your beliefs about yourself,

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You’ve probably seen how a dog or another pet learns— through repetition or conditioning. Totally Fulfilled people follow a pattern for success, repeat that pattern over and over again, adjusting it as necessary, and condition themselves for success. I’m sure you’ve heard the adage: “You are what you eat.” The same principle applies to creating a Totally Fulfilled life. You are who and what you surround yourself with. Who do you listen to? Who do you hang around? What kinds of attitudes do those people and organizations have? They have helped to make you who you are. You reflected the influences in your environment as you grew up and evolved through your adult life—your teachers, friends, parents, spouse, and others. From this programming, you devel- oped your core personal beliefs—beliefs you may not be completely aware you have. Core Attribute #1 Totally Fulfilled people are positive, optimistic people who create their own reality and don’t let their past, other peo- ple’s negative views of them, or life’s challenges defeat them. They surround themselves with other positive people and condition themselves for success. Think of beliefs in two different categories: those that may be holding you back and limiting your success in life, and those that have allowed you to excel, to take action, and to prosper. Before I give you specific techniques that will allow you to reach deep inside to find the beliefs that hinder you, and the ones that help you, take a moment and categorize a few of your beliefs to see which pieces of your past are drastically affecting your current life and your future . You can go to www.totallyfulfilled.com and click on “FREE BOOK BONUSES” to print a Beliefs worksheet, or I have created

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one for you in the back of the book on page 282. On the left side of the page at the top, write “Limiting Beliefs.” Beneath that, list all the things you can think of that seem to hold you back in life. On the right side, write “Limitless Beliefs,” then list those qualities and beliefs that have allowed you to accomplish any of your goals to this point. You may be reading this in a plane, in the passenger seat of a car, in your bed, or maybe even in the bathroom. That’s okay. If you can’t write anything down, simply take a few moments and really think about your beliefs. Limiting Beliefs–They’re What’s Stopping You Okay, now that you’ve listed some beliefs on your own, let’s go through some specific questions to narrow the focus of your beliefs even further. Let’s start with “limiting beliefs.” As you think about this category, answer these questions . Write, or at least take a moment to think about a “yes” or “no” answer after each, as well as the first thing that pops in your head about each question. It’s quite a list, I know. Pick and choose the questions that hit home. You will likely have more questions to pile on top once you get going. ! Do you believe making more money than you currently do is almost impossible? If you would like to make more money, how much would that be? ! Do you think your education and your intelligence level are major factors in determining how much money you can make? “I’ve never been poor, only broke. Being poor is a frame of mind. Being broke is a temporary situation.” —Mike Todd

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! Do you think it takes money to make money? ! Do you believe that your relationship with a loved one or your family is as good as it gets, due to circumstances beyond your control? ! Do you believe failure or mistakes are a bad thing? ! Do you believe life handed you a raw deal or that you have had more obstacles than most people? ! Do you feel that family, friends, children, or even your boss are holding you back? ! Do you believe you have very little or nothing to be grate- ful for? ! Do you feel you have had very few accomplishments in your life? ! Do you think you have nothing to be proud of? ! Do you believe that change is scary? Do you fear the unknown? ! Do you wish problems would just go away forever? ! Do you take advice from people—a relative, a parent, or a spouse—just because they are older than you are? ! Are you bored with life, not knowing what excites you anymore? ! Do you feel that circumstances control the direction you are going? ! Do you feel frustrated, angry, upset, overwhelmed, inse- cure, fearful, guilty, or worried on a regular basis when you encounter unexpected problems? ! Do you ever say to yourself, “Why does this always happen to me?”

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! Do you have a favorite belief or phrase that you use when things don’t go your way like: “I could have made it if only ______________ didn’t happen”? ! Are you ever envious when other people get ahead? Even if you don’t say it, do you feel it? No matter what your thoughts

Like an outdated computer, we need to upgrade our beliefs and way of thinking.

or answers are, your honesty is impor- tant here. The answers you provided do not make you any less capable of living a Totally Fulfilled life. Rather, we’re identifying traits and beliefs that

are holding you back. Consider the fact that by the time we’re seven years old, we’ve heard the word “no” over 10,000 times! So many of us have been programmed in all the areas of our life—money, relationships, business, health, success, etc.—and we don’t even know it. Like an outdated computer, we need to upgrade our beliefs and our way of thinking. You are in control. It’s time for you to purge your limiting beliefs and substitute them with more supportive, empowering, limitless beliefs . Limitless Beliefs – Break Free From Your Past

“Courage is resistance to fear and mastery of fear, NOT absence of fear.” —Mark Twain

Now let’s go to the other end of the spectrum, the “limitless beliefs.” As you think about this category, answer these questions . Again, answer a “yes” or “no” for each and write down any feelings associated with each one: ! Do you wake up each day knowing there are no limits to what you can do or what you can become?

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! Do you feel the question is not “if ” you can experience a fulfilled life, but “when”? ! Do you look at change as a challenge, not a fearful obstacle? ! Do you chalk up failures and mistakes as lessons and building blocks towards a better future and tomorrow’s successes? ! Do you realize that the words or thoughts of others are merely their opinions, or their insecurities projected towards you? ! Have you realized that you can love your family, friends, and peers, but not have to agree with themor need their approval? ! Have you realized that you don’t need anything in your life to succeed except you? ! Do you have the “juice” for life because you know there is more out there for you, and you are going after it? ! Do you appreciate everything you have accomplished in your life, whether big or small? ! Are you are thankful for the things you already have, whether big or small? ! Do you realize that problems and stress are part of life, and that you just need to know how to focus on the solution rather than on the problem? ! Do you believe in your heart that your past does not deter- mine your future, no matter how difficult it may have been? ! Have you ever looked in the mirror and said, “I am proud of you”? ! Do you let other people know that you appreciate their opinions but that you are on a different course than they may be?

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! Do you appreciate when other people do well for themselves? ! Do other people’s successes give you even more motiva- tion to go after your dreams? ! Do you say things to yourself like, “I deserve more, and I know I will find it”? ! Are you willing to learn from successful, fulfilled people? Are you able to learn from your own mistakes as well as the mistakes of others? Take a moment right now and make sure to answer the ques- tions honestly. Maybe add some of your current limitless beliefs in to the mix. Think of beliefs that are inside of you that have helped you to this point in life. What belief made you pick up this book? In addition, right now, why not go back to your limiting beliefs—the ones you answered “yes” to in the first column—and Reframe your limiting belief into a limitless belief. For exam- ple, you can reframe the limiting belief “I believe my success and net worth are limited by my education and experience,” as “My motivation and enthusiasm alone will attract opportunities for success like it has done for so many others.” Here’s another example. Restate the limiting belief, “I believe it takes money to make money,” as “I love knowing creativity and desire is what it takes to make money.” If you hold the limiting belief, “I have been dealt a bad hand in life,” reframe it as “My past does not determine my future.” The limiting belief, “I have nothing to be grateful for,” can be restated as “I am so fortunate to have ______________ in my life, fortunate that my heart still beats every day, and fortunate that I get to re-invent myself as I choose.” Reframe your limiting belief into a limitless belief. let’s transform them into limitless beliefs. We’ll take the first step towards erasing those limiting beliefs inside of you that have held you back without you even knowing it.

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Take a moment now to immediately give yourself the gift of limitless beliefs. I recommend transforming all or most of the lim- iting beliefs you have. See how easy it can be to change them and truly take in what that simple change can mean. Imagine how good it will feel when you can change your beliefs for life. Take five or even ten of the limitless beliefs that touch you the most and read them aloud. If you can’t do it now, then do it when you wake up tomorrow or before you go to bed tonight. As you say them, feel it. Feel that a Higher Power is listening to you. When you say them, please don’t whisper or say them as if you’re being forced to say them! Say them like you mean them! Let your subconscious know that things are changing! A few years ago, this exercise helped me get through a very difficult time. This simple lesson saved my mental health and empowered me beyond belief. I have many businesses, and one was a small used car dealership I started for a friend. To make a long story short, the people who ran the dealership made some very poor decisions and got the company in debt quickly. Instead of coming to me when it first happened, they tried to fix the prob- lem but only made things worse. Once I was made aware of the situation, I immediately had to come up with a significant amount of cash to pay off this debt. At the same time that this was happening, I had several other situations with various companies that demanded a big influx of cash as well. Even worse, in some of the cases, people I cared about and trusted took advantage of me when I could have used their help. Of course, old, limiting beliefs started popping in my head, like, “Why do these things always happen to me?” and “How could people I trust do this?” I found myself feeling overwhelmed, uncertain of the best road to take, and unsure whether I could even resolve the issues, so I took a walk to think. Practicing what I preach, I searched for my limitless beliefs. I reflected back on the past experiences that allowed

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me to come this far. Nothing I had done to this point had stopped my evolution towards a fulfilled, prosperous, and successful life. I was thinking of other successful people I knew who had encountered worse situations than mine and came out stronger. All of a sudden, I started saying the phrase, “If I can get through this mess, I can get through anything.” Each time I said it, the

words came out with greater intensity and volume. In fact, at one point I lit- erally had goose bumps all over my body. I shouted the words with pas- sion: “If I can get through this mess, I can get through anything!”

I was commander of my ship, and no one could sink it without my permission!

This phrase empowered me, inspired me to take this lesson and move on, without letting anyone or anything knock me off track. I was commander of my ship, and no one could sink it with- out my permission! Well, everything turned out fine, and I evolved to another level in life shortly after that. Plus, I took with me a whole new set of priceless, limitless beliefs and lessons for my future. Why not memorize ten of your favorite limitless beliefs? When you need empowerment, you can say them out loud, feel them, believe them, and make them happen. You are what you believe , and you can do what you believe . Who has the power to stop you? No one!

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Chapter Check

" Reality is really what you perceive it to be.

" No one can have power over you unless you let them.

" Chances are, others conditioned you for mediocrity.

" Your path to success is only blocked by the Limiting Beliefs you and others have placed there. " Your Limitless Beliefs allow you to access all the power of your “Core” to overcome those Limiting Road Blocks. " To become Totally Fulfilled, transform your Limiting Beliefs into Limitless Beliefs.

" You are what you believe. You can do what you believe.

Now that we’ve taken a look at how Limitless Beliefs can help transform our lives, it’s time discover the amazing power of attraction.

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2 Chapter Success Leaves Clues

“Whatever is impressed is expressed.” —Aristotle

About a year and a half ago I was working out at the gym. Being in my mid 30’s, little aches and pains started that I chose to ignore. I was doing a shoulder press behind my back, and I felt something pop in my shoulder. It hurt terribly. As in the past, I fig- ured it would just go away. But this was different, it just got worse and worse—to the point I could not lift my arm up to wash my hair. I could only sleep on one side, making for many sleepless nights. Finally I realized the injury was more serious. I went to an orthopedic surgeon, got an MRI on my shoul- der and they found that I had torn my rotator cuff. The doctor scheduled the operation to repair it. I just figured I didn’t have an option and took his word as the only course of treatment. I surely could not leave it the way it was since I still experienced a ton of

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pain daily. When something is broken, you fix it. And when some- thing is torn, you repair it through surgery. I had a few months before the operation was scheduled since I put it off a bit due to work. Then by luck, I was having a conver- sation with a neighbor of mine. She told me I should do pre-hab— not re-hab—she called it pre-hab. I’d never heard it talked about that way, so I was intrigued. She suggested I go get physical therapy to strengthen the muscles around the tear. Her reasoning was that I should do so because after the operation, rehabilitation and recovery would be much faster. I took her advice, and I went to this simple little no frills rehabilitation clinic with just a bunch of great people working there. The owner asked why I was there and I explained. He then asked me something I him more about this new possibility, and he suggested a program where I started off very slow and worked up. I asked if it was possi- ble to get my shoulder back to normal or even 95%, and he said many of his clients do. That was all I needed for the motivation to try it. As you know, I live by the rule that there is nothing anyone else can do that I can’t do. So, I started the exercise routine. At first my ego hurt, since I was barely using any weights, yet each week I saw improvement. I soon learned the routine, taking the information and doing those exercises at my own gym. Each week I gradually used heavier weights or didmore repetitions without the pain getting worse. Then the pain started going away, and I started to get my shoulder strong again. I was washing my hair with no problems, I was able to lift my arm straight out to the side which I could not do before, and the best part was that I could sleep on my right side again. Of course, I canceled the operation and it has been over a year since the injury. As long as I …I live by the rule that there is nothing anyone else can do that I can’t do. did not consider until that point. He said, “Did you ever consider not having the surgery and at least trying to do special exercises and specific shoulder strength training?” I asked

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don’t go nuts and I keep my shoulder semi strong, it is 98% of what it once was. This story illustrates how important it is to recognize when your beliefs are limited by a lack of knowledge. Also, I was limited by my perception that a doctor knew best and I shouldn’t question his opinion. The man knewmore than me, he was the expert so if he said have an operation, that was what I was going to do. Period. But then the universe nudged me and told me that I should open myself up and be receptive to other ideas. I could have just as easily dismissed what I was told about physical therapy, but I didn’t. By being open minded and willing to accept new ideas and being open to suggestions, I brought my neighbor to the point where she could make her suggestion. That’s the power of attraction. Core Attribute # 2 Totally satisfied people are open minded and willing to con- sider that there are always multiple solutions to any problem. Did you do the beliefs exercise (from p. 282)? I hope so. If you didn’t, try to do it soon, because if you do it, you will be light years ahead of 95% of people in the world today. Was the first group of questions—the limiting beliefs—or the second group—the limitless beliefs—easier for you to relate to? Which ones were you able to whip through, with answers in your head as soon as you read them? Which questions made you say, “I’ll think about these, but they’re not really ‘me’”? Would holding limitless beliefs be impossible with the life you currently have? Did you think, “Dean, you’re nuts! That’s an impossible way to go through life”?

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Putting the Pieces in Place Just as healing a shoulder without surgery took sticking to an exercise routine, living a Totally Fulfilled life takes practice. And practice makes what? Perfect. Wrong. This is another example of a lim- If 100% of your “comfortable” answers fell into the second group—the limitless beliefs—then congratulations! You are among the top few percent of people in the world. By read- ing this book, you prove that you truly realize that being Totally Fulfilled is not about getting to a destination; it’s an evolution. You probably also realize that what makes you feel successful or satisfied today may not make you feel that way in a year or even a month from now. After you read this book, those limitless beliefs won’t just be where you end up; rather, they will be the starting point of experiencing a Totally Fulfilled life. Changing your beliefs and realizing you have no limits is the first step. You can have happiness, wealth, and joy about life every day— something most people never get to experience.

“Practice makes permanent.”

iting belief you’ve carried around way too long. The truth is “Practice makes permanent.” If you practice something wrong over and over again, you’ll do it wrong. If you practice some-

thing right over and over again, you’ll do it right. Different way to look at it, isn’t it? You and I weren’t taught money, happiness, joy, prosperity or a Totally Fulfilled life. Therefore, we must be willing to let go of our false programming and allow a new program to replace it. You want permanent change, not a temporary one. Wouldn’t it be powerful to know that if you lost everything, you could get it back within a fewmonths? People who live a Totally Fulfilled life know this

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to be true in all areas. I am not 100% certain that he is totally fulfilled in all areas of his life, but when it comes to his business accomplish- ments, Donald Trump is a good example. He lost everything, got it back within a few years, and now has blown past his prior beliefs. You can only imagine what his limitless beliefs are today. I congratulate you for taking a step in

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the direction of change. Chances are, your belief system may be changing already. If you are like many people, and you found it easiest to relate to the limiting beliefs questions,

that’s okay. Because you now possess one of the greatest secrets to changing the outcome of your life: Change your beliefs, change your life. Realize that we’re just getting started. I promise you together we will change your beliefs and get you on the path of a Totally Fulfilled life. Make Your Mind Ready for Greatness

“The world is what we think it is. If we can change our thoughts, we can change the world.” —H.M. Tomlinson

Let’s go a little further and explore even more strategic steps you can take to start fresh with new beliefs—beliefs you can prac- tice every day to stoke the fire within and provide the fuel to win the race called life. As you’ve read, your false programming has been instilled in you in a variety of ways, including the influence of your parents and peers, and ideas about what each failure or success means to you. Your past programming sets the bar for your beliefs and your future. No matter what they are, if your beliefs don’t support you, then you have to change them.

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For example, I don’t care if you are Republican or Democrat. I don’t care what religion you are. In most cases, you are what you are because of your parents or other influences you had growing up. Did you research what religion you liked as a child? When you first registered to vote, did you research which party you liked? Maybe. But in most cases, you chose the belief system your parents or other people taught you. So if your parents instilled beliefs in you such as, “Go to school and get a good job, because that is how you make it in life, and if you don’t you may not have anything,” then that could be an underlying limiting belief you have. Anything outside of that belief frightens you, and that belief may very well keep you in a job you dislike and at a level of income you hate. If your parents ran their own business at one point and failed, you may have inherited a limiting belief that makes you scared to death to try your own business, even though you have a strong desire to. If you had friends or important people in your life who had wonderful, caring, nurturing relationships with their spouses, you may feel one way about relationships. However, if you had parents or influential people who had horrendous relationships, or felt they were abandoned, or if someone you looked up to told you that relationships are impossible and that you should stay single forever, then you may be afraid of commitment and not know why. Your beliefs are guiding you like a puppet on a string. So think hard once again and determine the limiting beliefs you have in all areas of your life. Think of your experiences growing up that may still be affect- ing you today. As an adolescent, my limiting beliefs file was full. Luckily, I was able to chip away at each one month by month, year after year; I still find them and change them to this day. Having your mind filled with limitless beliefs and erasing limiting beliefs is not a one day practice. It’s an ongoing gift you can present to yourself. You can change your beliefs in an instant. You are what you focus on. You can truly have what anyone else has, once you believe

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you can. For example, when it comes to money, what if you thought like Oprah Winfrey, Paul Newman, Bill Gates, or Donald Trump? Donald Trump’s mental money conditioning causes him to think like a billionaire—make that a multi-billionaire. Where would you be if you thought or had the mental conditioning he had? Within a few years, a staggering amount of people who win over $1,000,000 in a lottery are back to the financial state they were in before they won. Yet someone like Donald Trump can lose it all and get it back. It comes back to his adjusted limitless beliefs and conditioning. If you seized all the money from everybody in the world, and everyone had to start from zero once again, 95% percent of the money would end up back in the hands of the people who had it originally. At this point in my life, I know that is a reality. By shifting your beliefs, you can live a Totally Fulfilled life. This is with all avenues of your life, not solely money. It’s your time to unlock the door and utilize the power of focus. “I’d like to make footprints in the sands of time before I check out, but you can’t make footprints in the sands of time if you’re sitting on your butt unless your intent is to make buttprints in the sands of time.” —Bob Moawad While we are on the topic of money, I want to share my thoughts about this “taboo” subject. Money is a tool in your toolbox that gives you more choices, allows you to enjoy greater happiness, and helps you get to the next level in your personal development. I have had the opportunity to meet so many people, and having money is usually the first dream they have. Whether it should be a leading goal or not, let’s face it, it is. I know I Having More Money is Not Taboo

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am good at not only creating money for myself, but also helping others to do the same. But keep in mind that we are building a core inside of you designed for success in every area of your life. Once that core is built, you can plug in any- thing you want to accomplish. If more money is one of your goals, it’s going to happen. Using the same strategies I am sharing with you in this book, I have been fortunate enough to have generated tens of mil- lions of dollars in my life. I am living proof that there is no limit to how much money you can make, even if you have to start with next to nothing like I did. I understand, and you should too, that money alone will not lead to a fulfilled life, but it surely can help expand your life and reduce stress in many ways. People don’t want money for money’s sake. They want money for the feelings they think it will give them. So imagining more money in your life is not selfish and it’s not evil; it’s okay. If I hit a button, and instantly you had an extra million dol- lars in your bank account today, what are the top three things you would do with it? Maybe you would buy a new house for your family for a feeling of accomplishment . Maybe you would help out your extended family with financial mat- ters for the amazing feeling of giving . Maybe you would help your parents or have your husband or wife quit a job they hate for the feeling of sharing gratitude . Maybe you would buy a hot new car and a new boat for the exciting feeling of status . Money is not the root of all evil. Money alone, without your proper internal core, can go wasted and actually make you un fulfilled. Money does not buy you love, health, or happi- ness, but it can allow you to do amazing things for yourself and your family that spark enormous feelings inside you— feelings you will want to have over and over. Used properly, money gives us the freedom to choose which door we walk through in life. It’s your time to choose. Is a

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father of three who works sixty hours a week and who feels guilty about not spending enough time with his family greedy if he imagines more money in his life? What if just one thing in this book allows him to imagine and then realize that he already has it in him to overcome his personal obsta- cles and make a change? What if he challenges his limiting beliefs and starts to make more money in another way? Money would give him the freedom of choice and allow him more time to spend with his children. What about the woman who would love to be a stay-at- home mom, yet her finances don’t allow it? What if she could learn from this book that she has the tools inside of her to make a change with confidence? What if she is able to choose to overcome obstacles that may be in front of her and not only imagine a better life, but also have tools to gain it. It’s estimated that an overwhelming number of divorces stem from fighting over finances. Wouldn’t extra money or more time give couples the opportunity to focus more on their relationship rather than on the stresses of bills and finances? Could money help save a marriage? In a case like this, the answer is absolutely. What if you wanted to give to your family or to people in need? What if giving is something that makes you feel amaz- ing ? I believe each of us has a need and desire to contribute, and there’s nothing like the power of giving. Could addi- tional money allow this? Of course it could. If you were able to make the money you imagined or work the hours you dream of, would you be able to exercise more often and eat healthier food? Maybe you could take more time off for yourself, de-stress, and improve your mental health. Could money be one of the tools to help in these cases? Absolutely! I want you to realize that imagining you could make more money, dreaming of starting up your own business, embracing

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change by switching jobs, or working fewer hours to spend time with family are all excellent ideas! Soon we will talk about embracing change and specific techniques for you to make more money and make changes with confidence so you can be Totally Fulfilled. Let yourself imagine what you really want, what will make you feel happy and totally fulfilled with no limits. If money is a big part of that dream, that’s okay. Just break it down and learn what feelings you are looking for when you imagine attracting more money into your life.

The Foundation for Changing Your Beliefs

“Each player must accept the cards life deals him or her. But once they are in hand,

he or she alone must decide how to play the cards in order to win the game.” —Voltaire

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I want to share my background with you and some of the beliefs I was taught while growing up. If you’re thinking I was born like the people who can totally relate to the limitless beliefs ques- tions on page 11 and 12, you are mistaken. Let me first say I love my parents very much and am fortu- nate to have them both in my life. However, they divorced when I was threeand my sister and I lived with my mom in various places, from Gram’s house, to trailers, to apartments. I moved about twenty times by the age of nineteen. My mom worked two jobs making a total of about $90 dollars a week to support my sister and me. My parents have been married three additional times each since then, and they are currently both single. My mom felt very insecure, even though she was an amazing woman. These insecurities made her run—moving sometimes from one state to another—whenever problems became too much for her to deal with. My dad had a very troubled childhood, so he dealt with his pain through rage. He never physically abused us like his father abused him, but he was unaware of the guilt and heartache his actions caused my sister and me. My parents’ cars were so bad growing up that I made them drop me off down the block from school so the other kids would not make fun of me. I hated a lot of the clothes I had to wear because they were different from what most of the kids wore. I know many people reading this have experienced much worse hardships than I have, but I want you to see the type of beliefs we can develop while growing up. I only told you a fraction of my experiences. But from what I revealed, can you imagine the beliefs I started to develop as a child? I carried with me a laundry list of negativity and limitation. Take a moment to reflect back on your life. What are some experiences you remember hearing, seeing, or copying that influ- ence your way of living? What beliefs did you observe or experience that have steered your life in a direction that isn’t con- ducive to fulfillment?

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If you have negative, limiting beliefs, take them and restate them as positive limitless beliefs . For example, despite what hap- pened to me, I realize my parents did the best they could. I am the person I am today because of all of my experiences, and I love them for that. I choose to take the positive lessons frommy parents

and learn from them; just as important, I make completely opposite choices from those that they made in instances where I saw they did not get good results. Accept the challenge to recognize the past as an important part of help-

…become the person you are destined to be.

ing you become the person you are today. It’s time though, for you to move beyond it and become the person you are destined to be. Who I became as an adult could have gone in any direction. Yet I have changed my destiny, my path, my beliefs, and the des- tiny of every generation that follows me. Wouldn’t you love for that to be your legacy? The Power of Attraction I learned how to attract money, success, love, confidence and joy because I believed I could. And if I did it with little guidance, I have no doubt that as a team we can do the same for you. Today, I’m fortunate to help support my mom, dad, grandmother, loved ones, and friends financially and/or emotionally. It’s an accom- plishment that feels one hundred times better than I could have ever imagined. Did I get where I am today because of my perfect upbringing, all the money my family had, or because I never hit any obstacles or hard times? NO! I discovered by accident that I’m in control of my own destiny, and the past does not determine my future. Remember, being totally fulfilled is a journey rather than a destination. Today, at this very moment, I am totally fulfilled. However, I realize that if I stand still or don’t continue my growth

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and learning, I may not be next week. Being totally fulfilled means you are always growing and evolving to another level. You may have heard that “objects in motion tend to stay in motion.” If you focus on the beliefs that nothing can stop you and you are moving every day—using the skills I will show you to pick up speed—then you will be in motion towards a new life. Yes, you’ll have a few challenges along the way. If you let those challenges or

negative beliefs get you off-track, then your momentum will be carried in the wrong direction. The less time you’re off- track, the more time you’re on. The suc- cess track is waiting for you.

The success track is waiting for you.

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Chapter Check

" Totally Fulfilled people are open minded and welcome challenges to accepted ways of thinking and doing. " When you open your mind, the universe responds with other solutions to your problems. " Limiting Beliefs prevent most people from being open- minded.

" Practice doesn’t make perfect, it makes Permanent.

" Money is not the root of all evil—know your reasons for wanting to attract it into your life.

" The past doesn’t determine the future.

" Being Totally Fulfilled is a journey, not a destination.

3 Chapter Anything Is Possible

“You can’t push anyone up the ladder unless he is willing to climb himself.” —Andrew Carnegie

Let me tell you a quick story about beliefs; it touches me more deeply with each passing year. One of my first mentors was my great grandfather. First, the word “mentor” is actually kind of a new term for me. I wish I had had a lot more mentors while grow- ing up and even in my adult life. To me, a mentor is simply a person who has the answers to help you live the life you want and deserve. Their life lessons or their personal one-on-one touch can allow you to learn frommistakes and take advantage of the knowl- edge and accomplishments they have accumulated. They help you realize your dreams, eliminate your fears so you can see the light at the end of the tunnel, and help you pass through the tunnel to find another tunnel to conquer.

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Mentors can be a variety of people, including family, friends, your boss, loved ones, and even a coach. Tiger Woods still works with a coach, right? One of my first mentors (someone I’ve never even met) was my great-grandfather. He indirectly inspired me to raise the bar on my beliefs and helped me appreciate what I have. His story, told to me by my grandmother, allows me to appreciate the smallest things. How is this possible, especially since I never met the man? Well, my great-grandfather’s story begins at the turn of the 20th century, when he left a tiny town in Italy called Potenza with a belief that he could get more out of his life and give more to future generations. So my great-grandfather left Potenza and made it to the closest port that had ships going to America. He wanted the chance for a better life; however, he had less than $5 in his pocket. But what he didn’t have in money he made up for with a strong desire and creativity . He knew one thing for certain: he wanted to get on the ship. So he made a deal to work on the ship in exchange for a free ride to America. Instead of limiting his beliefs and looking at all the obstacles, he focused on what he wanted. When the ship docked in New York City, he was dumped at Ellis Island. He couldn’t speak Eng- lish. He didn’t know anyone. He came here alone. He left his family and all his comfort zones behind. What was his belief? He believed there was a better life in Amer- ica, and he went for it. Let’s fast-forward a few years. He married my great-grandmother and moved to the little town I grew up in. They had four children, and he ended up owning his own restaurant. When he arrived in America, he worked as a dishwasher but believed he could do more, so he worked his way up to being a waiter. Again, he believed he could do more. Eventually he saved enough money and found the courage to leave the city and move to a little town called Milton, New York where he opened his own restaurant. …what he didn’t have in money he made up for with a strong desire and creativity.

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